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12 Tips for Single Living

12 Tips for Single Living

For some, living single is a clear life choice, but for many it is a stop along the way where we may not want to lay our bags down. Love comes and leaves early for some and late for others, but moments alone can be full of wonderment whether you are single or married. Here are a few tips towards living more happily, finding love within yourself or with others and simply learning to enjoy life’s journey.

1. Don’t go to the liquor store for milk. You will not get milk where it is not sold. So to avoid disappointment, don’t expect responses from people that they may not be emotionally, psychologically or mentally equipped to give you.

2. If there is clutter, clean it out. For a positive attitude you need to eliminate the negative habits, people and influences from your life.

3. Pretty people can be lonely too. Don’t make assumptions about who people are, what they want or how they live their lives.

4. Remember that love does not discriminate. So be gentle with yourself and less critical of your beauty, brains and body.

5. Love knocks, but not when you’re sitting at home. New opportunities and people cannot find you if you are tucked away indoors on your couch.

6. Handbags do not just come in designer labels. From backpacks to Birkins, we all carry around lots of “stuff.” Since you can never tell what’s inside each person’s tote from day-to-day, try to take things less personally.

7. If it’s too tough, chances are it’s not healthy. Relationships should complete, not deplete you.

8. Taking is one of life’s greatest achievements. There is no shame in accepting help or admitting you need it.

9. Fight fears by facing them. There is something simply delicious about finding out what frightens you the most, and then conquering it on your own.

10. “No” may mean “yes” in sales but not when it comes to your love life. If it is too hard, it is not right.

11. Status is a symbol, happiness a state of being.
There are plenty of miserable married people.

11. Letting go can be liberating. Always trust your gut–it will let you know if and when you are holding on to false hope.

12. It only takes one. One home cooked meal can nurture the soul, one new friend can change your life, one long bike ride can improve your mood.

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7:54AM PDT on Sep 5, 2011

I know I added a comment in here. I wonder where it went?

8:13AM PDT on Aug 27, 2011

thanks

1:39PM PDT on Aug 11, 2011

haha

8:49PM PDT on Jun 14, 2009

thanks...you...
Kabin
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9:38AM PDT on Apr 23, 2009

greetings to one and all who read this,
I only visited the site earlier this month and was wondering if any one else had written any more comments on the story that was written by Veronica as I seem to only get 12 comments -the last one being my own. I would have thought that as it is a current topic that there would be more people commenting on it.
best wishes - Janna K

9:26AM PDT on Apr 11, 2009

I found the previous comments interesting and I would like to add that being single at 50 I still hear comments "you must be very picky" or "you must love your job and career" or "you didn't want a husband and children then" or the best one yet "you are probably too set in your ways to want to compromise at your age" What am I -one foot in the grave???? Have these people no compassion or empathy? Do they not realise that what they say can be very hurtful especially when they don't know the personal background of the person they are speaking to? I am single due to life circumstances and not by choice. I do not desire to be a doormat, punching bag, being cheated on or lied to excessively and I expect the respect I give to my partner to be given in return. I am a good person and have a caring heart, I still have a sense of humour and try to be flexiable. I am one of the lucky ones who has a job which after 20 years I still love and enjoy.I am blessed with family and friends who love and care about me so finding someone to share my life with would be the icing on the cake.. I intend on staying positive and to enjoy my life as much as possible. best wishes to all who read this. jjk...

7:41AM PDT on Apr 10, 2009

yes;being in a relationship is drainging, especially if it is not healthy. I am finally leaving my husband and will not be returning back to him. I was separated for about over a year and a half;i tried to make it work but it is not good for me or my daughter. I must move on to better things. i know that being single is wonderful and am not lonely;like to meet new people and would like to try new thing s now that i am not placing my life on hold for someone that doesn't care anyways.
I love biking and am going to look for a old 10 speed bikebecause they are light and fast, plus i love the fresh air and excercise.

7:09AM PDT on Apr 10, 2009

Married life can be very lonely if you end up choosing the wrong partner. Sometimes its better not to be in a relationship because it can be emotionally draining and end up making you feel insecure and worthless as a person. Being single after a divorce can give you a new lease on life, freedom to do what you want and when you want and it feels great not to be answerable to anyone except yourself and GOD ALMIGHTY.

7:06AM PDT on Apr 10, 2009

Married life can be very lonely if you end up choosing the wrong partner. Sometimes its better not to be in a relationship because it can be emotionally draining and end up making you feel insecure and worthless as a person. Being single after a divorce can give you a new lease on life, freedom to do what you want and when you want and it feels great not to be answerable to anyone except yourself and GOD ALMIGHTY.

6:25AM PDT on Apr 10, 2009

Being single doesn't have to suck. I think that part of the joy that can be found in being single can come from the recognition that we can enter relationships by -choice-, rather than feeling like we -have- to have a partner to be complete. I've had partners that I've cherished over the years, and we've separated as friends when being together was no longer a growth experience for us, and I've never regretted the choice to be single, to be part of a relationship, or to return to single life when the time was right to do so. For Stephanie -- Maybe it's time to stop looking in the past and accepting your victimhood at the hands of others. What is important is today, and there is never just -one- person in our lives to love... love is energetic, expansive, and flexible. Love yourself first, regardless of outside influence, and if you -do- want to be with another person in your life, that circumstance will happen organically.

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