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12 Tips for Single Living
For some, living single is a clear life choice, but for many it is a stop along the way where we may not want to lay our bags down. Love comes and leaves early for some and late for others, but moments alone can be full of wonderment whether you are single or married. Here are a few tips towards living more happily, finding love within yourself or with others and simply learning to enjoy life’s journey.
1. Don’t go to the liquor store for milk. You will not get milk where it is not sold. So to avoid disappointment, don’t expect responses from people that they may not be emotionally, psychologically or mentally equipped to give you.
2. If there is clutter, clean it out. For a positive attitude you need to eliminate the negative habits, people and influences from your life.
3. Pretty people can be lonely too. Don’t make assumptions about who people are, what they want or how they live their lives.
4. Remember that love does not discriminate. So be gentle with yourself and less critical of your beauty, brains and body.
5. Love knocks, but not when you’re sitting at home. New opportunities and people cannot find you if you are tucked away indoors on your couch.
6. Handbags do not just come in designer labels. From backpacks to Birkins, we all carry around lots of “stuff.” Since you can never tell what’s inside each person’s tote from day-to-day, try to take things less personally.
7. If it’s too tough, chances are it’s not healthy. Relationships should complete, not deplete you.
8. Taking is one of life’s greatest achievements. There is no shame in accepting help or admitting you need it.
9. Fight fears by facing them. There is something simply delicious about finding out what frightens you the most, and then conquering it on your own.
10. “No” may mean “yes” in sales but not when it comes to your love life. If it is too hard, it is not right.
11. Status is a symbol, happiness a state of being. There are plenty of miserable married people.
11. Letting go can be liberating. Always trust your gut–it will let you know if and when you are holding on to false hope.
12. It only takes one. One home cooked meal can nurture the soul, one new friend can change your life, one long bike ride can improve your mood.
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greetings to one and all who read this,
I only visited the site earlier this month and was wondering if any one else had written any more comments on the story that was written by Veronica as I seem to only get 12 comments -the last one being my own. I would have thought that as it is a current topic that there would be more people commenting on it.
best wishes - Janna K
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I found the previous comments interesting and I would like to add that being single at 50 I still hear comments "you must be very picky" or "you must love your job and career" or "you didn't want a husband and children then" or the best one yet "you are probably too set in your ways to want to compromise at your age" What am I -one foot in the grave???? Have these people no compassion or empathy? Do they not realise that what they say can be very hurtful especially when they don't know the personal background of the person they are speaking to? I am single due to life circumstances and not by choice. I do not desire to be a doormat, punching bag, being cheated on or lied to excessively and I expect the respect I give to my partner to be given in return. I am a good person and have a caring heart, I still have a sense of humour and try to be flexiable. I am one of the lucky ones who has a job which after 20 years I still love and enjoy.I am blessed with family and friends who love and care about me so finding someone to share my life with would be the icing on the cake.. I intend on staying positive and to enjoy my life as much as possible. best wishes to all who read this. jjk...
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yes;being in a relationship is drainging, especially if it is not healthy. I am finally leaving my husband and will not be returning back to him. I was separated for about over a year and a half;i tried to make it work but it is not good for me or my daughter. I must move on to better things. i know that being single is wonderful and am not lonely;like to meet new people and would like to try new thing s now that i am not placing my life on hold for someone that doesn't care anyways.
I love biking and am going to look for a old 10 speed bikebecause they are light and fast, plus i love the fresh air and excercise.
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Married life can be very lonely if you end up choosing the wrong partner. Sometimes its better not to be in a relationship because it can be emotionally draining and end up making you feel insecure and worthless as a person. Being single after a divorce can give you a new lease on life, freedom to do what you want and when you want and it feels great not to be answerable to anyone except yourself and GOD ALMIGHTY.
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Married life can be very lonely if you end up choosing the wrong partner. Sometimes its better not to be in a relationship because it can be emotionally draining and end up making you feel insecure and worthless as a person. Being single after a divorce can give you a new lease on life, freedom to do what you want and when you want and it feels great not to be answerable to anyone except yourself and GOD ALMIGHTY.
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Being single doesn't have to suck. I think that part of the joy that can be found in being single can come from the recognition that we can enter relationships by -choice-, rather than feeling like we -have- to have a partner to be complete. I've had partners that I've cherished over the years, and we've separated as friends when being together was no longer a growth experience for us, and I've never regretted the choice to be single, to be part of a relationship, or to return to single life when the time was right to do so. For Stephanie -- Maybe it's time to stop looking in the past and accepting your victimhood at the hands of others. What is important is today, and there is never just -one- person in our lives to love... love is energetic, expansive, and flexible. Love yourself first, regardless of outside influence, and if you -do- want to be with another person in your life, that circumstance will happen organically.
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Dear Veronica,
thanks for sharing. I think it will work not only for those in singletoons (Bridget's Jones), but for all of us. I'm married, but I still carry some extra baggages, still envy my pretty single friends, still have some clutters ;P.
I'm happy with my life, but I know that there are lots that I can do while I'm alive.
I always try to be positive and thankful to those who share their thoughts and remind us how to remain positive.
With love, ME
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I sent this to my daughter and my single friends.
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Ana, you are lucky then! When I was single, all my girlfriends were married and under the impression that once you tie the knot, you have to abandon your single friends. Since I was the last one in the group to have not tied the knot, you can imagine how much of a social life I had! No friends, no dating prospects...just my cat. And there's not too much to do out there when you're on your own...even bowling requires two people, and going to clubs or bars is impossible because having to drive defeats the purpose of going out for a drink. Don't even get me started on dating!
There was, however, an upshot. I did find out the best Valentine's Day dinner when you're on your own consists of a pepperoni pizza (small is good, but a larger size can be used for leftovers the next day or two, saving you the trouble of cooking), a good bottle of wine (or whatever alcoholic beverage you like), and a pint of Cherry Garcia for dessert. Indulge yourself in a sweet treat like that...Gods know you deserve it! Jsut stay away from romance movies on TV...comedy is far better for your mood on that day!
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