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3 Ways to Conquer Your Fear

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3 Ways to Conquer Your Fear

By Nazia Mallick, Ode Magazine
The major clothing and accessory company Nike, made “Just do it” a motto for their brand promotion, created a business empire out of it and are still laughing all the way to the bank! There is no doubt that it makes a wonderful copy. It has that zingy feeling of boldness when said aloud. Many times we also use it in our normal talks “Okay, just do it dude–just do it mate, come on, just do it!”

However, we say it unthinkingly. We want to believe in it because it feels good to do so. When it comes to actually applying it, we step back. We hold on to the fear of putting our thought into action. “What if it goes wrong? What if I fail? What if I am unable to come out of it?”

These two words “what if” rules our life. Fear always feels like this. Something is wrong. Something is going to be wrong. There is a fear of failure, fear of success, fear of publishing, fear of fame, fear of loss, fear of losing all that we have, fear of change, fear of letting go.

I don’t know about you, but I am often filled with fear about more things than I would care to admit. To mention a few, there is a fear of losing my health and the fear of losing my loved ones. I have often struggled with the fear of letting my work go public, notwithstanding the fear of rejection and putting it all out in public glare, my inner emotions, thoughts, beliefs and qualms. Most of the times when I put my work on public pages, I feel like a boxer in the fighting ring. Putting myself out there for blows of criticism and to be knocked down by rejection.

Sometimes I get these blows and it knocks me down, but I have discovered that the rewards are also many. The kindred feeling of connecting to so many people with my words and living an enlightened life is worth conquering all my fears. I have learnt that it is the working, living and accepting of the fear that helps us to conquer it. We just cannot wish the fear away.

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Ode, the magazine for Intelligent Optimists, is an international independent journal that publishes positive news, about the people and ideas that are changing our world for the better.

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9:56AM PDT on Oct 23, 2011

So what's best: making friends with fear - or slaying it?

1:09PM PDT on May 27, 2011

This article has made me feel and think different.Thank you.

7:38AM PDT on Jul 22, 2010

CHINMAYEE and all of you who need this! just speak ahead, do not pay attention what others think, look at them as you would look at flowers, and think of what you want to achieve. Good luck to you all, I am with you if you are good people!

11:38PM PDT on Jul 12, 2010

Great article. Thanks for sharing!

1:15AM PDT on Jul 1, 2010

Thanks for sharing. I always see fear as a challenge - if I'm scared of something, I try and conquer it. The only thing so far that I am still afraid of is public speaking, and no matter how many times I have done it, the fear doesn't seem to go away...I guess that's something I'm going to need to work on! Also, I love Gandhi quotes, thanks for that one!

5:19AM PDT on May 31, 2010

Fantastic article! I have had issues with fear and anxiety for awhile now, and this has definitely helped me out in overcoming them.

9:25AM PDT on May 24, 2010

When I was a child, I've always had nightmares. Every night, I suffer from an unusual feeling. It almost felt like I was dying. I always imagined dead people circling around my bed and coming after me. I found it hard to breathe and I sweat a lot. Every time I go to the bathroom, I pray because that what the oldies told me. Since Im catholic, I thought it was best if I get closer to God. So every time I felt fear, I just prayed. But as the days passed, it got worse. I heard voices that threatened me every time i was about to do something. Like while Im brushing my teeth, the voice says "if you dont make the sign of the cross all your teeth will fall off". It was something I couldn't explain but when I grew a little older, my dad gave me these books about pilgrims and wisdom. So I read it and began reading other books related to it. After a few years, that "fear" slowly disappeared. Im already 16 now and people consider me as a strong and independent girl. I'm not afraid of the dark anymore. I'm the one they seek for help when they're in trouble. I'm not afraid to just go further and experience life to its maximum capacity.

4:56AM PDT on May 24, 2010

Fear can sometimes have a legitimate reason: such as being confronted with a serious danger without any means of defence.
Fear can also produce a chest cramp, this is more usual if one is completely alone, and reduces physically defensive capacity, rapid action counters this.

4:37PM PDT on May 19, 2010

I know most of the things to do to conquer fear and I even wrote a poem about it and about my nightmares based on fears - subconscious which will never come true because I know no one will kill me and I will fly if not literally to get away from danger and continue to face my fears and overcome them! I already do exercise to be less "sedentary" and be like our nomadic ancestors! Talk about the fears and work it out and practice what to do for interviews or new things. My fears are best on my childhood fears, my circumstances, situation, and environment and how people treated "me". More confidence, perseverance, determination, stamina, endurance and faith = success and prosperity and positivity or positiveness = optimism = hopeful! Amen!

11:04PM PDT on May 18, 2010

Brilliant, thanks!

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