4 Important Friendship-Feeding Habits

By Coach Shari, DivineCaroline

We were out to dinner with good friends last week, enjoying happy hour with sake and sushi. My friend relayed to the waitress what she wanted for dinner, and ended her order with, “I would like extra ginger please.” I looked up at her and smiled. You know why? Because my good friend ordered that for me — she knows that I always enjoy extra ginger with my sushi. I happen to think that makes her an awesome friend and definitely a keeper. That small action inspired this week’s blog; I realized that there are certain habits that feed your friendships.

1. Go out of your way to make your friends feel special.
I know this is difficult when you’re juggling so many responsibilities in your life. You probably often feel like you can’t fit any more on your plate, emotionally or logistically! However, as crazy as it seems, that one moment when she ordered the ginger for me made me feel special. It meant that she pays attention to what makes me happy and she was thinking of me. Trust me, she has plenty to keep her busy right now in her own life. But somehow, in that moment, she was able to completely focus on our friendship.

2. Mean it when you say that you forgive and forget.
There are women that verbalize that they forgive but don’t let truly go in their heart. They hold on to things in their close relationships and it eventually negatively impacts the relationship. It simmers beneath the surface and when the friendship hits rocky waters, the incident from many years ago comes spewing out of their mouth. Are you guilty of this? Please try to remember that forgiving someone truly means forgiving and moving on. Acknowledge your hurt or anger, work through the emotions and move on.

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Kate S.

2:45AM PST on Feb 27, 2013

GREAT TIPS- TY

February 27
send a green star

Dale O.

1:08AM PST on Dec 21, 2012

Friends are treasures and delights who help keep the darkness away and share the joys of life.

December 21
send a green star

Roger M.

1:03AM PST on Dec 21, 2012

Very good, Thanks.

Beth G.

11:19AM PDT on Oct 20, 2012

Up until this past Wednesday afternoon I thought I had a really good email friend, to whom we have been emailing back and forth almost daily for atleast 8 yrs or more...Two years ago, she lost her husband and I sent her my sincere thoughts to her and then mentioned to her that she was lucky that he did not suffer at the end. Well 6 months later give or take she met a gentleman and now she is in a relationship with him. They are not living together but see each other quite often, go on trips, etc...She is a senior like me and he too. They have had a few disagreements and she at one time or another felt he was trying to control her to which she did point all this out to him. Anyhow she would email me with my advice or opinion and I would give it to her, but it was only my opinion, bottom line she was the one to make the decision and I did mention this to her. I was a friend who gave support who listened...I have my own issues to deal with. Anyhow during the last two weeks she found fault in everything I wrote to her...she would see that I made spelling errors, I would screw up the word do, and due many a time and she pointed this out to me in a very opinionated and critical way. I put up with this over the years I must have a mental block with those two words, I had over the course of time told her that I had trouble explaining things in writing and hoped she had understood what I said or meant. Then her emails became quite nasty towards me and then I stood my ground an