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4 Ways to Make Lust Last

  • June 27, 2011
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4 Ways to Make Lust Last

It’s been well documented that married people have sex more often than single people do. But it’s not always great sex. Build strong bonds, and better sex will follow

By Elizabeth Svoboda, Men’s Health

If you’re looking to recapture the manic sexual frenzy of your first months together, fuzzy handcuffs and herbal supplements just won’t cut it. In fact, you’ll probably feel just as stymied as you did before you tried to amp up the action, says Sandra Scantling, Psy.D., a certified sex therapist. “People think lust is a prerequisite for having great sex, but it’s just one biological piece of attraction,” she cautions.

Discover how you can have sex 8 times this week.

So what will elevate the ecstasy? Simply being up close and personal, in the share-nearly-anything, build-rock-solid-trust sense. “Comfort is the best aphrodisiac,” Scantling says. “It’s about the lasting experience of connection.” Dive into this guide to keeping your physical and emotional bonds strong, and you’ll never fear stumbling into a long-term sex rut.

1. Track the good times

One way to combat the common trap of long-term boredom is to make sure you’re always using your baseline affection as a springboard for exploration and adventure. In a recent University of North Carolina study, people who felt that their partners appreciated them expressed more satisfaction with their relationship. “The key is to cultivate a ‘beginner’s mind’ and look at each other from a fresh perspective,” Scantling says.

Back to basics: Learn these 10 lessons about the female orgasm.

Your move: Make a list of five to 10 qualities you admire most in your partner. Then, each time you notice one of those qualities in her behavior, let her know how much you value it. As she senses your efforts at showing appreciation, she’ll likely respond in kind-and both of you will be happier for it.

Another strategy: Start using that vast backlog of digital photos you’ve been taking and collaborate on a photo album. Do it old-school, printed-picture-style, in a way that memorializes the funniest and best times you’ve had together. Doris Bazzini, Ph.D., of Appalachian State University, found that couples who laughed and reminisced about good times were more likely to feel more satisfied with their relationship.

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5:05AM PDT on Apr 22, 2013

Thank you for sharing.

7:58AM PDT on Apr 6, 2013

There is definitely too much porn on Care2.

10:30AM PDT on Mar 29, 2013

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That's kinda like saying that someone should take drugs to fall in love. I really don't agree with the idea.

10:27AM PDT on Mar 29, 2013

Lust isn't going to last unless there is real love. It never works for people who get together with someone just because they're cute.

5:08AM PDT on Jul 10, 2011

My comment didn't print. And yes I did go out and come back in, still didn't print so I'll repeat.

King Solomon was reputed to be the wisest man who ever lived. I disagree but...

Do what he did. Get yourself a thousand wives and let them fight over you. That should prolong the lust beyond the tantra limits.

5:02AM PDT on Jul 10, 2011

King Solomon is reputed to have been the wisest man who ever lived. Shhh-I don't agree.

Do what he did. Get yourself 100 wives and let them fight over you. That should be a real turn on that will last beyond your kingdom's demands.

12:43AM PDT on Jul 10, 2011

While there IS a difference between love and lust, I do think that it IS important that the lust last a while... being IN love waxes and wanes. This doesn't mean we stop loving each other, but, it's hard not to remain IN love, when the lust is still there keeping everything fresh...

Eventually, the hormones and physique will diminish, and it will be the memories to reminisce that will keep the romance going...

1:12AM PDT on Jul 1, 2011

Good.,Good article for newly married couples.

4:31PM PDT on Jun 29, 2011

common sense

1:08PM PDT on Jun 29, 2011

good stuff. Loving, as much and as unconditionally as possible, communicating well, trusting, and just doing it often is a good formula for many things you want success in.

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