How’s your sex life? And what does the quality of sex have to do with the mind, or the breath?
For centuries, humans have explored mind-body connections. Many of the ways we’ve used to reach a deeper self awareness have resulted in improvements across multiple aspects of our life: work, interpersonal relationships, and yes, even sex!
Here are five keys to get you and your partner on the path to better, quality sex:
1. Quiet your mind, and take inventory of where you are. What state of mind you are in? Are you calm, or agitated? Are you here in this moment, or still thinking about work or something else? And what might be holding you back…do you lack confidence or have doubts or fears? It all starts with self-awareness. Simply observe, do not judge yourself or try to change anything, just be aware.
2. Breathe. Take deep cleansing breaths. Feel your chest rise and fall. If you were agitated, find a sense of calm. Let go of any other thoughts and just be in the moment. Clear your thoughts and think only of the breath. Follow it as it flows into, through and out of your body.
3. Shut down the little voice. As you focus on your breathing, you silence the little voice in your head. This is the one that keeps you from enjoying the moment — it reminds you that you’d look sexier if you lost 10 pounds, it nags at you about problems at work — and keeps you from having great sex. Release it, one breath at a time. Every time you exhale, let those negative thoughts flow out.