As thanksgiving approaches, many of us are thinking about what we are thankful for. Since I celebrated my big milestone birthday, I have spent lost of time reflecting and feeling thankful for all the lessons I’ve learned over the last 50 years.
One of the happiest things I have reflected on are my friendships. At the top of that list is my best friend forever.
She and I met while in junior high (now usually called middle school) at the age of about 14. Though there were a few years we lost touch, and we now live hundreds of miles apart, the connection that we have is even stronger now and brings me such comfort and joy in my advancing years.
I’d like to publicly take this opportunity to remind her of how much I love her. Happy Thanksgiving to my BFF, this is for you (I promised that no names would be used even though she agreed to let me post our photo). Here are some of the reasons that I am so thankful for you. With your friendship, I know that I have the following:
Unconditional love. Best friends accept you and all of your “quirks.” I know mine does. Rather than being critical when you have done something that doesn’t reflect you, or isn’t something you usually do, they ask what’s wrong, if they can help, or just leave you alone if that’s what you need. She is the only one in my life that knows all of my secrets, both the good and ugly and she is still here, through thick and thin. I feel completely comfortable with her, I don’t have to be “on”; I just have to be me.
Emotional Support. A good best friend provides you with emotional support, is non-judgmental, and doesn’t criticize you unnecessarily. I know mine does even when she thinks what I might be going through isn’t that important, if I am the one that’s making myself crazy, or even when she’s going through hard times of her own. She is always there to listen and offer support.
But that doesn’t mean she isn’t honest and tells me the truth when it needs to be told. A real BFF will not only be supportive of you, but be honest as well. I know that mine is. She knows me better than anybody else, tells me when something is either a really good idea, or a super bad one. And yet, she does it without making me feel judged, crazy or alone.
Trust. We are now (gulp) 51 years old, and I know that I can trust her to look out for me, to help me be a better person, and that if I were in a jam and needed her; she would get here right away.
For the Laughter. I am sure there are people who listen to us and shake their heads when they hear some of the things we say to one another. Sometimes when we are together, we act as if we are still 15. I know we sure talk as if we are. We have nicknames and code for everything, and we also have the same sense of humor, which is a huge asset to have in a best friend.
I’d love to hear why you are thankful for your best friend, so please share in the comments section below.