8 Peaceful Resolutions

When I remarked to a diplomatic group that we would never end terrorism until we endeared ourselves to the enemy, they stared at me as if I had lost my mind. I get much the same reaction whenever I say that the same country would be one with no army and no weapons.

The way of peace needs to replace the current style of negotiation, which has obviously proved futile.

How to Negotiate Conflicts Through Peace
1. Show respect for your opponent.
2. Recognize perceived injustice.
3. Believe in forgiveness.
4. Bond at the emotional level.
5. Desist in belligerent actions.
6. Recognize values that are opposed to yours.
7. Don’t pass judgment and make your opponent wrong.
8. Don’t talk in terms of ideology.

Adapted from Peace is the Way, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 2005).

43 comments

irene fernandez
irene Fernandez4 years ago

Totally agree with Irfan, this needs to come at a person to person level first - this would help so much so that some problems don´t escalate to become bigger.
Not all may be resolved this way but at least we can learn to let go from them a bit.

Alice Birmingham
Alice Birmingham4 years ago

I need to memorize and practice these with daily life situations.

heather g.
heather g.4 years ago

Many people are very much influenced by what their country's media and their politicians feed them. I always think it is disrespectful to treat people as some 'hated group' without getting to know them and listening to their issues. I have also come across people who simply cannot offer the smallest apology - it sticks in their throat Wow - and that's the starting point, so it's no wonder we don't get very far with making peace.

Perhaps more evolved countries could have a part of their constitution stipulating that all politicians need Deepak-like training. Regularly!

devon leonard
Devon Leonard4 years ago

I'm wondering if Deepak Chopra would ever consider being an adviser/negotiator involved in international/global mediation.? I feel his approach could possibly do an enormous amount of good in the world. He truly is a great man of peace and compassion. Thank you for featuring his words of wisdom so often.

Miranda Parkinson

Great stuff!

Lauren E.
Lauren E.4 years ago

#3 is a big one. Thanks for sharing!

Norma V.
Norma Villarreal4 years ago

Sounds easy...now just getting into action to follow these peaceful resolutions!

irfan d.
Irfan d.4 years ago

This has to start on individual levels between people on a daily micro basis, which then over a period of time will become a default way of dealing with something contrary to one's beliefs /perception /understanding.
Excellent article.

Pamela Tracy
Pamela Tracy4 years ago

IF YOU THINK FOR ONE MINUTE THAT I WILL CARE ABOUT ANYONE THAT WAS MISLEAD BY THEIR VOICES TO ASSAULT ME..YOU ARE CRAZY ALSO...

Marianna B Molnar

noted