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8 Peaceful Resolutions
Adapted from Peace is the Way, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 2005).
When I remarked to a diplomatic group that we would never end terrorism until we endeared ourselves to the enemy, they stared at me as if I had lost my mind. I get much the same reaction whenever I say that the same country would be one with no army and no weapons.
The way of peace needs to replace the current style of negotiation, which has obviously proved futile.
How to Negotiate Conflicts Through Peace
1. Show respect for your opponent.
2. Recognize perceived injustice.
3. Believe in forgiveness.
4. Bond at the emotional level.
5. Desist in belligerent actions.
6. Recognize values that are opposed to yours.
7. Don’t pass judgment and make your opponent wrong.
8. Don’t talk in terms of ideology.
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add your comment »Governments are made up of individual human beings. Change is made by each one of us. For the past 5 years a group of Israelis and Palestinians have been meeting at what for the Jews, is Independence Day, and a memorial of the Holocaust, and what for Palestinians is a day of great mourning and disaster for many lost their homes and land.
The first years consisted of much anger and hurt, and learning to listen to the "other", and to take responsibility for compassionate listening and communication. The last few years have seen a lightening of energy as the circle of trauma and drama is slowly being replaced by a circle of healing.
The shift is not made so much by quantity, but by quality. I KNOW that we are making a difference and I am humbled and proud to take part.
All the best,
Eliana Gilad
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All the don't mean do for politicians and those in power and authority.If they agree with Deepak they are compromising.I fully understand Marylin's fear.It is a sense of loss and bewilderment when ordinary Americans feel so insecure about the results of actions and decisions by the powers that be.I wonder why seeds of suspision,hatred and contempt are sown by Powerful people just to assert and hang on to Power.
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Try looking at your opponent in some kind or suffering, the most painful situation, and your whole concept of him will change, as you will start to feel for him as another human being and not an opponent.
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Right on! I wish you were on the Foreign Relations Committee Deepak.
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There are certain types of persons about whose words, policies, and actions I think (at least) twice before forming-and-acting on an opinion :
(these include): matematicians [sometimes I get it on the first try with thses], philosophers [ same comment as for mathematicians], presidents of the united states, or sovereigns anywhere; and medical doctors.... so I am going to mull over Deepak Chopra's words a second time [ for good measure, as it were]. Sorry to dissappoint anyone who is reading this comment expecting an endorsatory conclusion at this point.
Maybe I will write agian later (after more thought).
Robert E. Monaghan USA/MA/Chatham
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I am reminded of the post-9/11 firefighters' benefit in New York City during which Richard Gere called for us to ponder the motivation for the attacks. He was booed off the stage for suggesting that we should make an effort to understand the enemy instead of rushing to exact a violent revenge.
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You list gives me something to do in all my relationships. To have peace in the world we must have peace ourselves.
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Yes, and this is what I hear Jimmy Carter say, too (on you tube.) We are saying to Iran, "You want bombs? We dont want you to have bombs (that;s bad) so we will bomb you because you are wrong. It just perpetuates the violence. I heard a comedian say, "We are not fighting terrorists in the Middle Easts, we are CREATING terrorists in the middle East. So...I know you are correct.
But I am not one of the American citizens who has bought into the fear of terrorism. I am, however, becoming DEATHLY afraid of our government leaders. Please tell me how I can deal with that. And Deepak, could you please make an appeal to the current administration advising against starting another war with Iran? Maybe you and Carter could speak out on Nightline and George Stephanopolous's show on Sunday, and Jon Stewart's A Daily show...and others. PLEASE? So many people think they are protecting the constitution, but they are obliterating it. I know you are not a politician, but because you have an audience and a following and a voice, being silent is as bad as doing the deed. We need more of this type of reason to become more common and that will only happen with more exposure. Please give it some serious thought.
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Dr. Depak's message would have to start and reflect, with the masses around the world, before the governments would be forced, by its people, to bring forth, non-violent communications, towards a peaceful world for all! Nothing is impossible when the goal is of intention!
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Thanks Deepak. This is just what we all need to do and learn. If we begin now...it will become the "collective consciousness".
Google www.cnvc.org The Center for Nonviolent Communication or see Marshall B. Rosenberg"s book "Nonviolent Communication" for some practical ways to bring peace through communication.
Peace,
Tracey Huguley
www.traceylynnstales.blogspot.com (changing my story)
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