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9 Myths About Soul Mate Relationships

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9 Myths About Soul Mate Relationships

By Kelly Wallace, DivineCaroline

Myth 1: Soul mate relationships should be easy.

Relationships are not always easy. Why is it that we can spend so much time at work each and every day to bring home a paycheck yet we barely give our relationship a second thought? We expect it to run smoothly on its own without any maintenance, without any glitches, and without any problems. How silly is that?

All relationships take time, energy, work, commitment, and determination. If you want a wonderful soul mate relationship then you may need to make some sacrifices in other areas. Perhaps you’ll have to work less overtime, spend more time with your partner, work on communication, plan more things together, and compromise.

Think of a relationship like a garden. By following the suggestions in this book you’ll plant the seeds. Working on yourself and your soul mate-attracting skills is the soil. Once you find your true love you begin watering this garden and are careful to pull up any weeds that sprout. But over time what happens? You get used to being in the relationship and you stop watering it and neglect the weeds. What do you think will happen then? The garden will die. Instead, if you carefully tend to your “love garden” you’ll be rewarded with a relationship that blossoms and grows bigger over time.

Myth 2: Soul mates don’t have conflict.
Nothing could be further from the truth. Any relationship without conflict is a relationship between two dead people. You’re human, he’s human, and you have different personalities, stress factors, and everything else tossed into the mix. How could you not have conflict sometimes? The key is how well you handle this.

I’ve had couples come to me who are certain they’re soul mates and the beginning of their relationship was filled with joy, peace, passion and not a single argument. Then one day something shifts and someone gets ticked off or hurt and conflict makes its first appearance. That doesn’t mean things are doomed, it means you’re normal.

Conflict can be healthy because it forces a couple to look at their differences and understand each other’s perspective. It makes you look inside yourself, to acknowledge and examine your own core values and beliefs, and learn to appreciate that your partner has his own. Consider this a valuable opportunity to communicate and grow stronger as a couple.

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4:37PM PDT on May 9, 2015

Soul mates ?? a modern cliche and an Ideal we would all love to be... and be with!
but the reality is that this is yet another unachievable and unrealistic aspiration for the majority of us ...mores the pity!!

4:36PM PDT on May 9, 2015

Soul mates ?? a modern cliche and an Ideal we would all love to be... and be with!
but the reality is that this is yet another unachievable and unrealistic aspiration for the majority of us ...mores the pity!!

6:43PM PST on Dec 1, 2014


1:01PM PST on Nov 24, 2014

Thank you for Sharing:)

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3:10AM PDT on Jun 10, 2014

Begin with agreement about spiritual, political &/or ethical values. Add experiences together. If chemistry comes or is happening, that is great, too. We are ALL soulmates. We are ALL interconnected. However, besides working on your own self, it helps to partner with similar in order to save your energy & self-nurture. Creativity can occur with both closely OR widely similar partners. Respect and kindness, intelligence and tolerance go a long way towards wrapping souls more closely. It takes 110% on each person's caring concern part to have a HAPPY soul mate experience. But we are ALL split from one huge beautiful soul and carry stardust in our DNA. You must have soul to recognise soul. Mate? Quickest answer comes through shared diversity OR a cross country car trip.

3:12PM PDT on May 6, 2014

Interesting how the author believes in soul mates, as not all people do. But I do like how the author says it does require work and that conflict doesn't mean the relationship will crash. People are after all not the same as each other and this is inevitable. Thanks.

4:27AM PDT on May 5, 2014


2:48PM PDT on Mar 25, 2014

Thank you so much :)

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