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9 Myths About Soul Mate Relationships

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Myth 3: Soul mates are always romantic.
Real life is seldom like romantic movies or novels. While it’s true that in the beginning of relationships our hormones are in frenzy so the passion and romance is usually high, those chemicals soon wane and we’re left with true love . . . or true disappointment.

Also, we shouldn’t compare real life romance with what we see on the screen or read in magazines or books. When you think about it, what is romance, really? Candy and jewelry and flowers? Those are just materialistic things. Each person expresses romance in different ways. Using my relationship as an example, Mike isn’t the most romantic guy if you go by what Cosmo or novels label as real romance. Instead of feeling hurt or irked about his nonromantic ways, I pay attention to other things he does. He always opens doors for me, compliments me, pays for vacations, won’t let me help bring in the groceries if it’s raining, cooks dinner a few nights week, does dishes and laundry, sends an “I miss you” greeting card if he’s out of town, etc. Not once have I ever gotten flowers or jewelry, that’s not his romance style, but I’ve grown to love his style and find it incredibly romantic.

The lesson here is to not force a man to comply with your idea of romance. You can meet in the middle and also pay attention to his personal romance style. This one tip alone could mean the difference between falling (or staying) in love or constantly being disappointed.

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3:10AM PDT on Jun 10, 2014

Begin with agreement about spiritual, political &/or ethical values. Add experiences together. If chemistry comes or is happening, that is great, too. We are ALL soulmates. We are ALL interconnected. However, besides working on your own self, it helps to partner with similar in order to save your energy & self-nurture. Creativity can occur with both closely OR widely similar partners. Respect and kindness, intelligence and tolerance go a long way towards wrapping souls more closely. It takes 110% on each person's caring concern part to have a HAPPY soul mate experience. But we are ALL split from one huge beautiful soul and carry stardust in our DNA. You must have soul to recognise soul. Mate? Quickest answer comes through shared diversity OR a cross country car trip.

3:12PM PDT on May 6, 2014

Interesting how the author believes in soul mates, as not all people do. But I do like how the author says it does require work and that conflict doesn't mean the relationship will crash. People are after all not the same as each other and this is inevitable. Thanks.

4:27AM PDT on May 5, 2014


2:48PM PDT on Mar 25, 2014

Thank you so much :)

2:46PM PDT on Mar 25, 2014

Thank you for this atricle ♡

5:51AM PST on Feb 20, 2014

I believe more in 'kindred spirits' (not in the romantic way).

4:39AM PST on Feb 20, 2014

thank you...

10:36PM PST on Feb 19, 2014

We all have some illusions. It's kind of a liberation to know the truth, no matter how disturbing the last can be sometimes. Thank you for sharing.

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