A Coming Out Lesson For All Of Us

Be true to yourself... that is seriously hard-won wisdom.

Frankly, it’s bold as hell that you’d even read a blog post about being true to yourself written by a lesbian with not one but two ex-husbands. Okay, perhaps you didn’t know that, but it’s not because I’ve been keeping secrets.

Let’s begin with a mind-blowing piece of Oriah Mountain Dreamer’s “The Invitation”:

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

Did she just say, “I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself“? Um, yes… she certainly did. This may leave us wondering, what does that even mean?

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Karen H.

2:16PM PDT on May 26, 2012

Did you truly lose the children? They saw you being true to yourself, which is an important lesson. As they grow, they'll understand (hopefully).
I've known a lot of women who married Mr. Wrong for a variety of reasons: can't have sex before marriage, so I might as well get married so I can have sex; security; I'm getting too old to be single... Whatever the reason, marrying the wrong person isn't the answer.
Be true to yourself. If others can't accept it, that's their problem, not yours.

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Paul C.

10:53AM PDT on May 16, 2012

My great-uncle came out, to me, when he was 70, I was 18 and straight. He had had years of unhappiness as a married man. Only when his wife died could he admit it to himself. I think he was very brave. Fortunately he found his happiness on a visit to New York. So if you need help to take a first step there are lots of non-judgemental people around.

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Sofia N.

2:13PM PDT on May 8, 2012

You are very brave and strong. Thanks for sharing.

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Newton Voski W.

11:43AM PDT on May 8, 2012

People should be allowed to express there feelings without fear.
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Colleen J.

6:59PM PDT on Apr 26, 2012

Life is short, so be true to yourself. :)

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Pat W.

11:10PM PDT on Apr 16, 2012

The last paragraph was excellent.

April 16
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Tammy K.

10:06AM PDT on Apr 15, 2012

Thanks!

April 15
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Paraskevi A.

9:21AM PDT on Apr 5, 2012

A wonderful article.

April 5
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Francesca S.

8:03AM PDT on Mar 31, 2012

Excellent article!

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Cristine S.

4:22PM PDT on Mar 23, 2012

Good article...I've always been a lesbian..but grew up with proper christian values, and married a man...my family was alive...so I struggled to do the right thing?...I married a man..too please my family and show face..that I was a "Normal gal"...Well, altho I cared about the man I married..it ended up in divorce..that left me struggleling...,,,Now, at 64...I'm out of the closet...It took me my whole life to open up...and not give a damn anymore...I just want to be me, and love again...