If you’re a perfectionist, you’re probably your own biggest critic. I know I am.
That said, I still get uncomfortable when someone brings something to my attention that could use tweaking or improving. It’s almost as if I think, “If no one else notices it, maybe they don’t see that I struggle in this area.” And so when that moment comes that I haven’t been as good as I thought at hiding some of my flaws, I get defensive. I’ll even have “reasons” (excuses) as to why I am the way that I am that I feel I must explain.
Maybe it’s the same for you. And in many ways it’s a natural reaction; it’s human nature to protect ourselves. Admitting that we have room for improvement means admitting to a weakness… which can leave us feeling exposed and uncomfortable. But it’s in our vulnerability that we can actually grow. Instead of being defensive, try slowing down and using that information to your advantage. Constructive criticism doesn’t have to be destructive if we acknowledge it instead of making excuses.
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