Even in integrative medicine practices, it seems to me that the approach is still way too allopathic. You come in depressed, and instead of giving you Prozac, they give you 5-HTP or St. Johnís Wort. They might also delve into your diet and advise you about your exercise program, but I really care about why youíre depressed. Are you happy in your relationships? Are you doing work you love? Are you sexually satisfied? Are you nurturing your spiritual life? Have you discovered your calling and figured out what youíre here on Earth to do? Are you caring for the temple that is your body?
Another important question I explore is ďIs your depression natural?Ē One of my friends just lost her best friend, who died in childbirth, leaving two children and a husband behind. At the funeral, they were passing out Zoloft like candy, and now, everyone in her family is taking anti-depressants. But isnít it healthy and normal to grieve when something tragic happens? Sure, tragedies can lead to clinical depression, but technically, you canít have a DSM-4 diagnosis of Major Depression in the midst of a crisis. We docs call it Adjustment Disorder, which seems so much more appropriate. Youíre adjusting to a loss — and yes, that can make you cry and grieve. Do you really want to wash those feelings away with mind-numbing drugs?
Sure, anti-depressants may be the answer — in some cases.
And when you need them- oh baby, do you need them. But those people arenít the ones these TV ads are aimed at. Theyíre targeting those who have lost their mojo — which is totally different than being depressed. It seems to me that disillusionment, dissatisfaction, and disappointment plague many people these days. Itís the epidemic of the developed world.
But drugs are not the answer. Instead, I encourage my patients to delve deep to discover who they really are at their authentic core. I ask them whatís missing from their lives. I invite them to explore what their body, mind and spirit need in order to heal. And then, after weíve balanced thyroid, adrenal, and sex hormones, talked about diet and exercise, sorted through the emotional junk that weighs us down, and discussed lifestyle modifications that might help, we talk about supplements and pharmaceuticals.
I understand that Iím lucky. I get an hour with my patients at the Owning Pink Center, which gives me the time to go deep. When your doctor only has 7 Ĺ minutes to care for you, itís easier to just write a prescription and send you on your merry way.
But you deserve to get your needs met.
You deserve to be treated like a whole, vital human being with a heart and a brilliant mind. You deserve to have a choice. Itís okay to question the TV ads and your doctorís advice. You can be an empowered patient. Itís your birthright.
So do me a favor. Switch off the TV when those anti-depressant ads come on. You donít need to fill your brain with those kinds of messages. If you need anti-depressants to feel joyful, more power to you. But donít let marketing influence you, and donít let your doctor push pills.
Mostly, listen to your intuition. It will tell you how to reclaim your joy.