Are You Controlling? (Quiz)

How much resistance are you in now? Our psychological defenses are extremely good at hiding this from us; by definition, stored-up emotions are the ones we can’t feel. However, resistance gives rise to a telltale behavior pattern—control. Having to be in control is a compulsion rooted in fear and threat.

Give yourself a point for each statement that applies to you frequently, most of the time, or almost always. Some of the statements do not sound very flattering, but try to be as candid and honest about yourself as you can.

1. I like to be in control of work situations and am much happier working alone than with others.
2. When I’m under pressure, the easiest emotion for me to show is anger or irritability.
3. I rarely tell anyone that I need them.
4. I tend to harbor old hurts. Rather than telling someone that he hurt me, I would rather fantasize about getting even.
5. I have quite a few resentments about the way my brothers and sisters relate to me.
6. The more money I spend on someone, the more that means I love them.
7. I keep to myself how unfairly others treat me.
8. If a relationship starts to go bad, I secretly wish I could take back everything I bought for that person.
9. If it’s my house, the people in it should follow my rules.
10. I find it hard to admit being vulnerable. I don’t often say “I’m wrong” and mean it.

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Adapted from Ageless Body, Timeless Mind, by Deepak Chopra, M.D. (Three Rivers Press, 1998). Reprinted by permission of the author.
Adapted from Ageless Body, Timeless Mind, by Deepak Chopra, M.D. (Three Rivers Press, 1998).

Emma S.

1:25PM PST on Dec 4, 2011

I got 12 - two less and I'd be 'practically perfect'!

send a green star

Chandre R.

11:54AM PDT on Jun 13, 2011

Im controlling... i had 28.....-_- and im only 15. But i dont control my bfs or anything like that it just bothers me when people cant do their jobs right or treat me badly. I have a painful past.. this quiz really explains me.

Sabrina C.

2:29PM PDT on May 13, 2011

I scored 17, which makes a lot of sense haha.

Lubna I.

7:31AM PDT on Apr 21, 2011

i scored 19 ,which means in the middle.. but i also tend to have a great deal of the characteristics from the 20 and above , since if i let my guards down with people whom i have mistaken to be true friends ,and instead got hurt by them,the result would be to turn my back completely on them , as if they never existed .. i tend to hold grudges , which i hate about myself but i cant control it ,especailly when i care and trust people deeply and they turn out to be undeserving of that trust .. i dont like to be taken for granted..