Are You Denying Your Dark Side?

Finding a person you dislike is an opportunity to embrace the paradox of the coexistence of opposites, and to discover a new facet of yourself. It is another step toward developing your spiritual self. The most enlightened people in the world embrace their full potential of light and dark.

Start very simply, with the most distasteful person you can think of. For example, think of Adolf Hitler and say, How could I possibly be like Hitler? Most people refuse to accept that they contain even the smallest shred of an Adolf Hitler. But think more deeply.

Have you ever expressed prejudice toward any group of people just because they had a certain name, or a certain skin color, or a certain accent, or a certain disability? If you can think of any example of that in your life, then you must embrace the similarity between yourself and Adolf Hitler.

We are all multidimensional, omnidimensional. Everything that exists somewhere in the world also exists in us. When we embrace these different aspects of ourselves, we acknowledge our connection to the universal consciousness and expand our personal awareness.

The traits we see most clearly in others exist most strongly in ourselves. When we can see into the mirror of relationship, then we can begin to see all of our selves. To do this, we need to be comfortable with our ambiguity, to embrace all aspects of our selves.

At a deep level we need to recognize that we re not flawed simply because we have negative traits. No one has only positive traits. Recognizing that we have negative traits simply means that we are complete. And in that completeness we gain grater access to our universal, nonlocal selves.

Adapted from The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press).

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Seda A.
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Colleen Prinssen
Colleen Prinssen3 years ago

not good for me to be darky.
darky and snarky. using tastless faceisiousness as a game.
to want to control everything and everyone
to have arrogent demands or make bad jokes of wanting a harem of pretty boys to please my every whim

i guess al that is just a random joke.

i do have a nice side. I think.

bring out the shadows and darkness in everyone. a good goal. it helps people grow. if they fall to it. then they fail.

Nicole G.
Nicole Gorman4 years ago

All I can hear in my head after reading this is Darth Vader telling Luke Skywalker to come to the dark side. Not sure why this triggered a weird Star Wars reaction because it's really very interesting and definite food for thought.

Carina Engstrom
Carina Engstrom4 years ago

I guess that as long we cannot acknowledge the darkness inside of us, we have to live it out. The feeling or thought we have but cannot accept, has the tendency to find its way through action since it cannot be restrained or buried forever. To acknowledge the darkness in us loosens the tension and we do not need to act - just observe. Thank you for posting.

Ron Grubner
Ron Grubner4 years ago

"The only thing neccessary for the triumph of evil is for a good man to do nothing" ...Edmund Burke 1729 -1797.It was in reference Biblical statements.
I think it applies to each of us individually for all evil starts in our "dark side" It's what we do with the thoughts generated there that counts.I we submit to evil thoughts we will react with anger, or retaliation,or any other negative thought.But to do nothing is leaving it to fester and dwell there and eventually submit to it....unless we look to our "light side"

heather g.
heather g.4 years ago

Thought-provoking article and comments. When I think I'm embracing my dark side happens when, for example, someone has been nasty to me or others, because of a bad mood. Or you hear someone who loves spreading stories that are untrue. I may think "Well, I hope you trip and fall." Embracing those dark thoughts has nothing to do with dictators who kill millions of people.
On the very few occasions I have been in the presence of evil people, my body has reacted with a shiver. My body's reaction is out of my control - like intuitive goose-bumps.

tiffany t.
tiffany t.4 years ago

'Silence in the face of evil is itself evil. God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.'
** Dietrich Bonhoeffer**
For those who do not know Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Meet a great man of God who fearlessly stood up in opposition to Hitler during World War II, and he paid the ultimate price. Conscience or dare I say his shadow self drove him to work with members of the German resistance in a plan to assassinate Hitler. He was arrested and imprisoned for two years, and finally executed at Flossenburg concentration camp. A man of the cloth was willing to murder for the greater good? The point that I am trying to make is we all have dark and light, one cannot survive without the other. Denying this is very dangerous.

Olga Lustosa
Olga Lustosa4 years ago

We all have a "war" inside us. Being good is a daily exercise we must do. Our dark sides are there and its our option to let them be exteriorized...

Loo Samantha
Loo sam4 years ago

noted, thanks.