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Are You Rocking The Red Tent?

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Are You Rocking The Red Tent?

“What’s your problem? You on the rag?”

I was in seventh grade the first time a boy dismissed reality by saying that I was having a fit of hormone-driven hysteria. He was teasing a classmate and being hateful to everyone who crossed his path, and when I stood up to him, he tried to shame me into backing down.

Clearly, he didn’t yet understand how hormones work. Nor did he know about my near obsession with getting The Last Word, or my astrological advantage (Taurus), or that I was in the early stages of my training as a verbal assault weapon. He was ill-prepared and I came undone. It’s mostly a blur now but I can still remember yelling at him, in front of many of our peers, “I might be on the rag but when that ends, you’ll still be a jerk!”

For the record, I was not actually bleeding at the time. I have no idea why, long before I could actually call myself a feminist, I felt the need to defend my menstruating self, but I did. I had a strong need. At the time, I knew almost nothing about myself, about what it means to be a woman and still, the idea that his cruelty could be washed away in a river of my blood infuriated me. It was a profound betrayal of truth and fairness, and I wasn’t, as they say, going to take it anymore.

Recently, a woman I’m connected with on Facebook posted something very thoughtful and respectful about a political trend she finds disturbing. The conversation quickly spiraled into an exchange between her and a man who was, in my opinion, being disrespectful. She stayed engaged, again very respectfully, and stood her ground. As I watched it unfold, I felt impressed by her ability to be so firm and clear but still keep it clean, especially when he was not.

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5:18AM PDT on May 12, 2015

The superb highly informative blog I’m about to share this with all my contacts.

1:01PM PDT on Sep 9, 2014

As I like to say, when women are out of sync, the world is out of sync. Okay, we'll change that to rhythm. :-)

Since 2001, I have been an advocate for honoring this most sacred time of the month. The use of more natural alternatives, the slowing down a bit, wearing red to honor the menstrual blood, reading books about the beauty and the power of "that time of the month" as well as the healing energy in the give-away.

The rise of the Red Tent movement is perfect for these times. It will assist women to a state of wholeness thereby, assisting the world in the long run.

Thank you for sharing.

10:54AM PDT on Oct 22, 2012

Food for thought. thanks

9:12PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

Men are usually too busy spraying the deck with testosterone.

7:45PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

Eckart Tolle says something similar, that menstruation is a time when women can deeply connect to the pain of the world. I find it sacred, and the tears tend to be a week before in my case. Men are also affected by their hormones, they may just be less aware of it or willing to acknowledge it. And of course, hormones never take away our choice.

5:02PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

“LGBT problem”

1:12PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

I have that intensity every day. All that changes on my period is that I am physically in pain. Therefore I dislike being on my period. It's different for everyone, though.

11:19AM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

8:09AM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

interesting question

6:00PM PDT on Sep 19, 2012


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