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Finally, he offered a long-winded conclusion, hurling himself onto the metaphorical sword, and left the conversation. The conversation continued in his absence and as everybody started to calm back down, I was mortified to watch it take a very old, painfully predictable turn. A full 25 years after that first school yard experience, I watched as that important and empowered dialogue/debate got chalked up to the woman’s raging hormones.

So, I’ve had enough time to grow up; educate myself; discover my life purpose; make, grow, birth, and mother children into their teens; figure out my sexual-orientation and learn to live in alignment with my integrity around it; start a business helping other women do the same; and still we continue to dismiss women who are standing strong in their personal power as being too hormonal to be taken seriously. That made me feel sort of crazy inside.

When I protested–yes, more articulately than I did all those years ago–the woman explained, “I don’t like that either, because I believe that hormones fluctuating just give women a keener sense of what is in alignment and what is not – it gives us less toleration for what is not. However, if you’ve been through fertility treatment, you know that the extra hormones do make you WAY less tolerant of BS and whatnot.” I clarified that being “way less tolerant of BS” does not cultivate it. This woman and her intensity, her unwillingness to tolerate BS, did not make that man behave badly. He behaved badly and she didn’t let it go.

There is a world of difference between me not putting up with your pushy antics and me causing you to act that way. And there is a great deal of violence against women that occurs in the gap between the two. I’ve seen this with my own eyes, heard it with my own ears, and the metaphorical she did not actually have it coming after all. To blame the monthly shedding of the lining of a woman’s womb for the violence, aggression, or simple ignorance that she encountered during those couple of days (or any other time that you need someone to blame) is a BS move if there ever was one.

So yes, around the same time every month, my tears are more accessible, as is my anger, but I don’t believe that means I am suddenly wildly out of control. Quite the opposite, in fact, those are the times when I am at my best. I see more clearly, feel more powerfully, and more easily take action from a place of integrity. The intensity makes me more real–not mean or harsh or impatient–just real.

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5:18AM PDT on May 12, 2015

The superb highly informative blog I’m about to share this with all my contacts.

1:01PM PDT on Sep 9, 2014

As I like to say, when women are out of sync, the world is out of sync. Okay, we'll change that to rhythm. :-)

Since 2001, I have been an advocate for honoring this most sacred time of the month. The use of more natural alternatives, the slowing down a bit, wearing red to honor the menstrual blood, reading books about the beauty and the power of "that time of the month" as well as the healing energy in the give-away.

The rise of the Red Tent movement is perfect for these times. It will assist women to a state of wholeness thereby, assisting the world in the long run.

Thank you for sharing.

10:54AM PDT on Oct 22, 2012

Food for thought. thanks

9:12PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

Men are usually too busy spraying the deck with testosterone.

7:45PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

Eckart Tolle says something similar, that menstruation is a time when women can deeply connect to the pain of the world. I find it sacred, and the tears tend to be a week before in my case. Men are also affected by their hormones, they may just be less aware of it or willing to acknowledge it. And of course, hormones never take away our choice.

5:02PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

“LGBT problem”

1:12PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

I have that intensity every day. All that changes on my period is that I am physically in pain. Therefore I dislike being on my period. It's different for everyone, though.

11:19AM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

8:09AM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

interesting question

6:00PM PDT on Sep 19, 2012


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