Ask the Loveologist: Can a Woman Ejaculate?

The other day when I made love with my boyfriend and I had an orgasm, there was this discharge of a lot of fluid. Could this be urine and is that normal for a woman to pee when she has an orgasm? It has never happened before and now I am a little nervous that I will wet the bed every time I have an orgasm.

I’ve been wondering about female orgasms. Does an orgasm with ejaculation necessarily mean that it was stronger than an orgasm without ejaculation? Or, does a woman only ejaculate during stronger orgasms?

Female ejaculation is a mystery for many women. It is one of the topics that is often in my email box partly because it is not well understood and most women never learned about this normal female sexual function. Many women have never experienced it, others have had the experience once or twice and still others have the experience regularly. Much of pornographic media creates the false impression that all women produce a huge release of fluid at climax.

The idea of female ejaculation is a controversial subject in part because so little research on the topic exists. There are no firm statistics on the percentage of women who experience this at climax, how much fluid is released or even the precise method to create the experience. Like most of the rest of sex, the answers to these questions are individual and mysterious even to the women having the experience. What makes the research difficult to conduct is that many women mistake the experience as incontinence and are so embarrassed that they don’t talk to anyone about it. Rather than associating the experience with pleasure, they feel shame, which sadly may make them inclined to not have sex more.

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Ken W.

1:23PM PDT on Jun 15, 2013

If you taste it you'll find that there is very little flavor no pee taste to it .....

June 15
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Adelaide B.

7:16PM PDT on Aug 24, 2012

Yep, and it wasn't squirts. My ex loved it!

August 24
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Alexa G.

9:22PM PST on Jan 29, 2012

hmmm.

January 29
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Jane B.

3:19PM PST on Jan 15, 2012

correction A man can manually stimulate the G spot with his fingers and cause multiple "squirts". It's not really "ejaculation", it's more like squirting. I didn't know about this my whole life until I dated a hot 27 year old. These young guys really know a lot. I'm impressed.

January 15
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3:15PM PST on Jan 15, 2012

The answer is yes but for me it is separate from orgasm. It's caused by stimulation of the G spot which is on the anterior wall of the vagina. For stimulation to occur, the man's penis must be large enough and curved peni are superior for hitting the spot. Penis size DOES matter. The man can manually stimulate the G spot as well and can cause There is sometimes a lot of fluid and it's thin and clear.

KS G.

1:02AM PST on Nov 27, 2011

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