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Awesome News About The Elephant In The Room

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Awesome News About The Elephant In The Room

If youíve been following my journey, you may remember how I turned down a book deal in January of this year because the deal just didnít value how much Iím worth. (You can read the whole painful story here.) Then my agent and I broke up over it (though we decided to break up and stay in love). It was an act of courage to say no to the publisher. On one level, I felt confident I was making the right decision because every Sign from the Universe affirmed it. †But deep down, I was scared shitless. What if I never got another book deal? What if I really wasn’t worth more? What would I do with my life? You know the drill. . .

Combined with closing the Owning Pink Center, my medical practice, and facing a very uncertain future, I was launched into what I called “the narrow place.” I experienced that deeply uncomfortable lost feeling, where you feel like the bony pelvis is squeezing you from all angles, and there’s no where to go but through the painful middle of the darkest spot.

Being In The Narrow Place

You know youíre going through the narrow place when all roads seem to be leading nowhere, you feel depressed and tearful often, youíre unclear about your purpose or direction, and you canít see clearly the light on the other side of the narrow placeís darkness. When youíre in the narrow place, you can feel the discomfort of pressure exerted from all sides. When youíre there, you may forget that on the other side of the narrow place is wide open expansiveness – in other words, rebirth.

So thatís where I was in January 2011. It was a dark, dark, time. But having been there before, I had faith in the process. I knew in my body that I would expand into the light on the other side when the time was right.

Clinging To A Dream

When I left my traditional medical practice in 2007, I knew I wanted to be a writer and I announced it to everyone. I spent the first year after quitting my job writing a memoir that got rejected by 23 publishing houses and never saw the light of a book store shelf. Then I wrote two more books – one about art and one about vaginas that, while they’re doing well, weren’t exactly New York Times bestsellers. And what I discovered is that, as far as publishers are concerned, the number of books your first book sells matters – A LOT. So when I started interviewing new literary agents, I kept bumping up against the same question – “Well, how many books did you sell?”

Uh. . . grumble. . . mutter. . . can’t we talk about how many people read Owning Pink instead???

I seriously wondered if my writing career was pretty much over. And with no medical practice and no clear plan for the future, I was feeling more than a little desperate. But I couldn’t let go of my dream of being an author who writes a new book every year or two. I write. That’s what I do. Had I reached the end of that road?

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at† and also created two online communities -† and† She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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11:23AM PST on Nov 12, 2011

Very entertaining article. Perseverance pays!

8:55AM PDT on Oct 31, 2011

CONGRATULATIONS LISSA! I am crying tears of happiness for you as I type this. As always, I take your successes and 'make them my own' spiritually. I love the way you write and inspire us. Love!

1:56PM PDT on Oct 28, 2011

Thanks for this.

5:22PM PDT on Oct 27, 2011

Great Job!

1:58PM PDT on Oct 27, 2011

Nice post, Lissa. Thanks!

10:23AM PDT on Oct 27, 2011

good for you, thanks and good luck.

6:28AM PDT on Oct 27, 2011

Great news! I am glad for your work ane persiverance. and to answer your last Question Yes I do plan on writing a bool I have Joined NaNoWriMo National Novel Writing Month. Where participants comit to writing 50.000 words in 30 days during the month of November. Wish me luck also I have never written anything that long just short stories for me. So Far.

2:15PM PDT on Oct 26, 2011

Good for you!! It's always inspiring to hear of others waiting for the Universe to come through -- and it does! Thank you for sharing and PLEASE!! keep it up!

1:20PM PDT on Oct 26, 2011

Congratulations....and you're welcome. :)

11:03AM PDT on Oct 26, 2011


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