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Bend Over: Spanking Your Child Stupid (and Mean)

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Bend Over: Spanking Your Child Stupid (and Mean)

As a young child, my siblings and I would routinely turn on one another and resort to physical violence as a means of intimidation, punishment, and as a primal expression of untamed aggression. With your siblings, you never really knew what was coming, as physical aggression was about as random and unpredictable as childhood itself. However we were lucky, as our parents “spared the rod” (so to speak) and, while they yelled themselves blue, never laid a finger on us. This afforded us a great deal of emotional security (not quite appreciated at the time) in a household where slamming someone on the back of the head with a phonebook was considered a mode of disagreement.

So when I was unfortunate enough to witness friends being punished by their parents in a corporal way (spanking and slapping), it was both shocking and offensive to my pre-adolescent brain. With siblings it was war, sure, but with parents, no matter how insubordinate the behavior may have been, it was always as placid as Switzerland, at least it felt like it should have been.

According to data recently collected, approximately 72 percent of American parents think that corporal punishment is permissible when dealing with misbehaving children. Judging from this figure (along with supplemental supporting data) most children in this country, at one time or another, are on the receiving end of some form of corporal punishment. While many parents agree that a swift spanking will almost immediately curb and rein in some undesirable or unruly behavior, the lasting effect is proving to be much less desirable.

This month, in the Journal Pediatrics, a study led by Catherine Taylor of Tulane University revealed the strongest evidence yet against the use of spanking: of the nearly 2,500 youngsters in the study, those who were spanked more frequently at age 3 were more likely to be aggressive by age 5. “The odds of a child being more aggressive at age 5 if he had been spanked more than twice in the month before the study began increased by 50 percent,” says Taylor.

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Eric Steinman

Eric Steinman is a freelance writer based in Rhinebeck, NY. He regularly writes about food, music, art, architecture, and culture and is a regular contributor to Bon Appétit among other publications.


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2:56PM PDT on Jul 24, 2013

Interesting but no violence.

2:55PM PDT on Jul 24, 2013

Interesting but no violence.

8:22AM PDT on Jul 31, 2012

Interesting debate but these days one should not be spanking children. I rarely was spanked as a child with the use of a hair brush but just because it rarely happened to me once in a blue moon, there is no reason to use spanking on a child today.
There are other ways of discipline. One person stated that since spanking is not used in Sweden just check out their suicide rate etc., yet it is a far less violent society and I am sure their problems are far less than the problems in the U.S.

5:16PM PDT on Apr 10, 2012

Would you like it if your boss got a paddle to you if you spilt coffe or broke a glass.

5:14PM PDT on Apr 10, 2012

Do not believe in spanking.Parents that do it are too lazy to give their kids time out which takes patience & thoughtfullness,no wonder we much violence in the world.

5:03PM PDT on Apr 10, 2012

I disagree. There is everything wrong with violence against children. And you wanna know what I respected growing up? An adult I trusted not to hurt me. And we (my brother and I) were both fantastic kids. And your example doesn't show causation at all... there are plenty of ways kids learn violence, parents just happen to be the most significant one. The government's job is to look out for it's people, and that includes children. Though the one who should primarily be doing that is the parent... and I find it sad that many have to be told how to properly do that.

3:57PM PDT on Apr 10, 2012

there is nothing wrong with spanking.children behaved better when they didnt have the attitude that "they cant touch me."they used to respect authority.i was spanked,and i feel that it was didnt make me violent.i will never forget hearing of a mother at the police station with her face bashed in because her son got angry with her and attacked her.the cop asked her if she spanked him when he was younger,and her response was,"of course not!that would teach him violence!"he wondered if she knew how ridiculous it was to see her with her face messed up from her son,saying that.i think that the govt needs to mind their own f***ing business and let people make their own choices.

6:08AM PDT on Apr 10, 2012

The fact that spanking makes kids aggressive is probably half the reason many parents do it! In the USA anyway, our culture seems to value aggression highly - as long as it's not directed at us or other members of the "in group". I grew up seeing bullying not only tolerated but encouraged - it was clearly the way the straightest (seeming) whitest (seeming) males were 'supposed' to keep the females, darkies, and sissies in line, punish any dissent or variation from the common 'norm', and seemingly an enjoyable privilege for the burliest & most conservative apes. And on a national level, many Americans seem to like bullying, sabre-rattling, and preemptive strikes as a core of our foreign policy. (Not to mention taking littler kids' lunch money whenever possible.)

5:22PM PDT on Apr 6, 2012

Keep your hands to yourself whether dealing with other adults or children.

5:19AM PDT on Apr 4, 2012

I agree, I see no reason to ever use violence when disciplining children.

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