How do we do this? First, we must cultivate an inner awareness of what I call love-consciousness, which is what the facets of my system are for. Maybe you use a different practice: the important thing is we develop this warm, secure place within, this safe haven where we can cast our anchor.
Our fears are provoked by external uncertainty. Fear of losing our attachments, of something that might go wrong and challenge our feeling of safety. When the fear comes, we shut down, and our defenses go up. We begin to resist the flow of life, to say no to the new and unexpected.
When the fear comes, go inwards and connect with the silent space within. You will see your fears appear and activate their defensive responses; then you can choose not to act upon them, but to keep going inwards instead.
If you are afraid of some external change, be it moving house, finding a new job, leaving your partner or starting a new relationship, the important thing is to feel. That way, instead of allowing insecurity to dominate your actions, you will be able to move beyond and choose to flow with the unexpected, the new, even though the fear may still be present.
If you are afraid of saying what you feel, because of what it might provoke in a situation or relationship, speak your truth, even if the thought terrifies you. Don’t allow the fear to rule your actions: challenge it and its grip will loosen.
In every moment we have a choice. Ultimately, that choice is for fear or love. Love of self is to be a prisoner of fear no longer.
Dare to move beyond that which limits you. Say a big YES to yourself, your truth: in doing so, you will open to receive the abundant flow of the universe, that only wants to give you the best. It is an inner change that changes everything externally.
Give it a try, and tell me how it goes in the comment section below.
Isha Judd is an internationally renowned spiritual teacher and author; her latest book and movie, Why Walk When You Can Fly? explain her system for self-love and the expansion of consciousness. Learn more at www.whywalkwhenyoucanfly.com