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Boy vs. Broccoli

posted by Dr. Brent Oct 23, 2008 7:00 am
Boy vs. Broccoli
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Q: My 5-year-old son hates vegetables. How do I ensure he gets the nutrients he needs?

A: Surprisingly, this is a very loaded question. Although I’m not a parent myself, I have plenty of friends who are, and I see the struggles and tantrums that can occur at mealtime. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve held my tongue as macaroni and cheese was served for more than one meal in a given day simply because it’s what the child wanted.

Honestly, a child of 5 should not be dictating the food that is served at mealtime. Studies have shown that couples with children are more likely to be overweight and have high cholesterol than those without children primarily because they cave to the foods that children often prefer.

Take back the plate. Serve the things that you know are healthy and that are prepared in a healthy way. Be creative. If he doesn’t like broccoli, instead of eliminating it from the table completely, run a fun day of taste-testing. Experiment with him about what makes broccoli taste better. Does he like it when it is raw or when it is cooked? Does he like it with cheese?

Parenting is a tough job, but making compromises to make things easier in the short-term never really pays off in the long-run. If you are buying the food, cooking the food, and putting it on the table, one thing is certain: Your child will not starve.

Dr. Brent Ridge is the health expert for Martha Stewart Living Omnimedia. You can call and ask him a question live every Tuesday at 2 p.m. Eastern on Sirius Satellite Radio, Channel 112 (1.866.675.6675). You can also follow along as he learns to grow his own food and raise goats on his farm in upstate New York by visiting www.beekman1802.com.

Got a health question for Dr. Brent? E-mail him at drbrent@care2.com.

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Vural K.

thanks...
Kabin

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Josephine Fenech

my family do not like steamed veges. but lately i got a recipe from a friend that helped me to use veges.
boil veges in a small amount of water for some minutes.when nearly cooked put some mecoroni{pasta} together with the veges.
beat 2 eggs + some grated cheese + a pinch of salt and pepper to taste.
bake for 20 minutes in a moderate oven.

Maria C.

Children must begin - very early in age - to get acquainted with the various flavours of food. In Europe pediatricians say to give 4 month babies the first potatoes, then carrots, then spinach at a rate of 1 new flavour a week. At 5th month you can introduce fish and fruit - like pear or cooked apple. Food flavours should be more and more complex as the babies grow. Don't give babies salt or sugar because these two elements are already present in almost every natural food.

Nick Scianna

had the same problem , until I steam them and
not over steam them, make them taste 80% better
in his case I would the chop it real small pieces and
put in food he like ! like mac+ cheese

Mario G.

Kids do what they see their parents do and not so much what they are told. They will follow a good example. The problem is that parents do not provide either a good example or a united front on issues. The problem is mostly not the kids but the parents. Parents do it right and you will not have a problem with your children.

Mario G.

I am close to 70 years old. I grew up on a farm and we always had more vegetables than most people today ever heard of. All four of us children never had a problem with anything that was put before us. Mom was a very good cook and everything she prepared always tasted good. We were always following the model of both of our parents who ate everything on the planet, so to speak, and relished it. We were never ordered to eat this or that and threatened and punished for not eating anything. For us we were always told that nothing that was served would harm us. We were told that everything had a nutritional value and was essential for our health. The concept was a well rounded out, balanced nutrition. We were taught to think of things in terms of benefiting us. We were always told that mom and dad ate everything and it did them good....that the family rule was that we had to eat a little bit of everything put before us. We were given choices of what condiments that we had in the house like butter, gravey, mustard, olive oil, ketchup, homemade slad dressing to eat with the things we liked the least and make it so that we could like it. If we did not like it cooked we could have it raw but we still were encouraged to do whatever we felt best to make it work for us. To this day we all have grown up familys with grand children who eat everything before them. Because of eating good healthy foods we are not snack food families. We do not like the taste of processed foods.Kids d

Debrah Roemisch

I am a mom of 3 adults and grandma of 3 --it does not harm them in them least to be in charge of meals! Certainly there should not be a power struggle over food but that does not mean letting the kids decide. I talked with my kids about the importance of eating at least 1 whole grain, 1 type of protein, 1 green food and 1 orange or yellow food every day. They could help choose other vegeys if they did not like a particular one. Of course if they grow up eating a variety of organic foods they will like almost everything--it is not true that kids do not like vegeys! Mine always loved broccoli but were not too crazy about kale--so I would often prepare both, I could eat kale and they could eat broccoli. If they did not want to eat anything I prepared they could go without--they won't starve! Yes, they complained at times since their friends got to eat junk food but now they thank me since they are all slim and fit while many of their friends struggle with weight and health issues(and only in their 20's!) I NEVER used their weight as a way to get them to eat healthy though--most of the girls we know who have emotional problems/eating disorders lived in homes where being thin was valued more than health yet mostly junk was served.
I did find an oganic ranch dressing which my grandkids like --they will eat almost any vegey with the ranch!
Also, if you are planning to have a baby or are pregnant--breast feed your baby--there is absolutely no better way to give your child a health

Kerin Gould

My sister says kids naturally hate veggies (she was an awful picky eater - karma?), so she caves and gives them chicken nuggets. Says at least they ate food. I say not really. Kids can't break you down to serve something you never buy! I also say buy excellent organic veggies with flavor. And buy seasonally. Farm kids rarely reject veggies! That said, kids' participation in preparing or growing food seems to help a bunch. And disguises help - not just cheese - like lite ranch dip, teriyaki sauce, pizza-like arrangements (try zucchini canoes - halve, take out pulp and saute w/spaghetti sauce, refill, put cheese on and bake). The puree idea is right on too.
Be smart rather than argumentative, but be the leader of your pack. Kids know nothing about nutrition or health. You do. You are there to make grown-up decisions not be a child with them. Try firm consistency rather than daily battles - or you will end up cooking several meals every time as food whims change, and sometimes these demands are attention-seeking and limit-testing as much as establishing taste. Once my niece said I don't like peas. I said You liked them yesterday. I don't wanna eat them. Well, we need to go out, and in order to go out you have to be done with your peas. She was shocked her preference didn't really matter, but she wanted to go out, so she ate them. I told her, if your mom and i only ate our favorite thing every meal, we'd only eat chocolate, but we'd be really sick. She got it.

Anne S.
  • Anne S. says
  • Oct 24, 2008 10:02 AM

This cook book may help you out: http://www.deceptivelydelicious.com/site/

I make (veg) bolognese b/c it has vegetables in the sauce, and mix butternut squash into the mac and cheese (it's orange, sweet, and they never notice it's not just cheese).

and I agree, I think the Doc is off the mark. I've read numerous books on diet (being a vegetarian), and all of them say to not force the food issue with kids as it will only create future food issues when they are adults. It's best to offer a family style meals (where you serve each item in it's own container) and let everyone choose what they want to eat. Just keep offering healthy things, eat them yourself, and always provide one item that you know your kid/s will like. Eventually they will decide to try things like broccoli by themself, simply out of curiosity, if mom likes it... maybe it really is good. Oh, and cheese sauce always helps =)

Ed P.
  • Ed P. says
  • Oct 24, 2008 7:44 AM

I came from a poor family of eight kids and we were required at each meal to eat at least one spoonful of everything.If there was desert we did not get any if we did not eat the other stuff.We did not get seconds,if there were any,if we did not go along with the first rule.
You can call if being a food nazi if you wish,but our jobs as parents is to take care of the welfare of our children and they don't have to like it,but life is like that.We all have to do or even eat things that we don't like and the sooner we learn this life lesson the better.Who ever told you that being a parent is easy,lied to you.Being a parent is HARD work.The worst thing about being a parent is that you don't know if you did the right thing or made the right choices for twenty years,sometimes.

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