Many of us, and not just in the helping professions, run into trouble when we bring other peopleís energy (problems, manipulative behavior, anxiety) into ourselves.
After an argument, for example, it is hard not to carry the other personís resentment and angry feelings with you afterwards, which can make you feel anxious or depressed for hours or days!
Here is a simple exercise to do when you do not want to pick up the anxiety of a person, or to take in their feelings when they want to hurt you:
Breaking Out of Negative Relationship Cycles
Center yourself and send him blue, a sense of peace. The moment you can do that you are protecting yourself against the intake of the negativity that has been projected by that person. Instead of opening yourself up to his negative thoughts and becoming more and more resentful as the conversation goes on, talk for a short time, say whatever you have to say, and get off the phone.
One can break the negative cycle without becoming irritated or further resentful, by remembering to bring the consciousness to center, so that you can once again be in touch with your inner self.
Adapted from The Spiritual Dimension of Therapeutic Touch, by Dora Kunz with Dolores Krieger, Ph.D., R.N. (Bear & Company, 2004). Copyright (c) 2004 by Dolores Krieger. Reprinted by permission of Inner Traditions.
Adapted from The Spiritual Dimension of Therapeutic Touch, by Dora Kunz with Dolores Krieger, Ph.D., R.N. (Bear & Company, 2004).