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Bullied Pulpit: Lasting Childhood Memories of Being Pushed Around

Bullied Pulpit: Lasting Childhood Memories of Being Pushed Around

Not everyone has been bullied, but for those who have, those memories are not only lasting but highly impactful, if not defining. Much has been written about contemporary bullying issues involving social media, texting, and old-fashioned taunts and threats, but there is not an abundance of tales from fully-grown adults about their experiences overcoming the bullying experience.

A new anthology titled, Dear Bully: 70 Authors Tell Their Stories, describing individual experiences as children and teens about dealing with a history of bullying. Contributing authors like R.L. Stine, Carrie Jones and famed children’s book author Mo Willems recount their sometimes funny, but most often painful, experiences being the victim of bullying – experiences that would otherwise be shameful and maybe hidden deep within layers of repression. The fact is, adults, even years on from these traumatic experiences, still carry with them a feeling of judgment and profound pain, and writing and sharing such experiences are not only therapeutic, but a way of reaching out to adolescents going through very similar experiences.

So in the spirit of moving through traumatic experiences, such as bullying, I wanted to open up the comments to those who have an experience to share about bullying or being bullied. Have you, or your children, had bullying experiences that have left a lasting impression? How have you dealt with such experiences? What would you do differently if you could go back and do it all over again? Please be as candid and forthcoming as you care to be.

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Eric Steinman

Eric Steinman is a freelance writer based in Rhinebeck, NY. He regularly writes about food, music, art, architecture, and culture and is a regular contributor to Bon Appétit among other publications.

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9:55AM PST on Feb 13, 2013

The story is true. As you grow older you never forget the bad things that happened to you. And you carry that thur adult hood. And then it seems OK to you and your children and family suffer from it. Even when parents treat there children and they learn from things they say and do. Even yelling at them is bulling and if mommy and daddy can do it must be alright. And saying things to them like you stupid or other disrespectfully things.They remember that.

2:26AM PST on Feb 13, 2013

The influence on the victim can be a long time

6:42PM PST on Feb 12, 2013

I'm glad more are speaking out

5:32PM PST on Feb 12, 2013

My name is Bethany, and I'm 17. I know that, compared to most of the people here, I'm still very young, and as such many people might not take my experiences too seriously. Whether that's because I'm too young to have been 'shaped' by my experiences yet or simply because children of my age are meant to be fundamentally shallow and idiotic, I neither know nor care. However, I will share my personal experiences whether you like it or not.

I have been bullied. I have been teased, beaten, and an outcast for as long as I can remember, including in preschool. I was abused physically, verbally and sexually at home. All I have known throughout most of my social 'existence' is bullying. Some people are just like me, they go through the same issues and come out just fine on the other end of things, ready to let go of the past and become healthy adults. I am a different case altogether. I was diagnosed recently with Major Depressive Disorder. I also suffer from mild agoraphobia. The things that were said and done to me led to my withdrawing from society entirely. I am now schooled online, and I rarely go outside unless it is to travel to therapy appointments. I have been hospitalized for suicide threats.

Bullying leads to abuse. Bullying leaves people hurt for decades. It leaves people insecure and frightened of the world around them. Most importantly, bullying kills. I will never be the same because of what people did to me. Thank you for letting me share.

3:45PM PST on Feb 12, 2013

Sounds like a worthwhile read. Thanks.

3:40PM PST on Feb 12, 2013

Ah, Hope K. - you always of the choice of believing whatever you want to. However, if you recognize that these were not nice kids to start with, why would you give their words any power? As Stella N said, "bullies are nothing more than weak cowards who pray on insecure people." She's right! Every living creature that is created has it's own beauty. Let yours out and enjoy it! Blessed Be!

9:41AM PST on Feb 12, 2013

Thank you for sharing.

11:34PM PST on Feb 11, 2013

Parents should read it.

11:19PM PST on Feb 11, 2013

Grest article. Thanks

4:58AM PDT on Mar 26, 2012

Thanks for the article.

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