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Can You Answer the Miracle Question?

Can You Answer the Miracle Question?

Do you need a miracle in your life?

I’m a big proponent of askingsolution-focused questions. Solution-focused questions focus on a better future as opposed to problem-focused solutions that focus on a troubled past. Can’t get a callback for a job interview? The problem-focused person will dwell on what’s wrong with him and ask himself why he seems to never get an interview. The solution-focused applicant focuses on what has worked, their strengths, and what might work in the future.

The questions you ask define your reality. They can help you live your best life or they can distract you (at best) or even derail you. It’s time you start thinking like a lawyer. A good trial lawyer uses questions to construct a reality that builds their case and best supports their client. It’s time that you become a better advocate for yourself by asking better questions.

Think of the questions you ask as a beacon of light. The focus of your question becomes the focus of your attention. No matter what questions you are asking, you are always defining what is important and what is worth your attention. If you get in the habit of asking problem-focused questions, your energy will be spent on your problems and not necessarily on the solutions.

One of the very best questions I’ve ever come across is called theMiracle Question. The Miracle Question is a popular question inSolution-Focused Therapy — a type of therapy that focuses less on problems and the past and more on solutions and the future. The genius behind this question is that it forces you to stop thinking about why you can’t achieve something and allows you to imagine how your life could be if something miraculous occurred.

TheMiracle Question

Suppose that tonight while you sleep, a miracle happens and all of your problems are solved. But since you were asleep when the miracle occurred, night, you aren’t aware that it even happens. When you wake tomorrow morning, how are you going to discover evidence of that miracle? What will you see yourself doing, thinking, or believing about yourself that will tell you a miracle has happened in your life or business?

Dr.Linda Metcalf wrote the fantastic book,The Miracle Question: Answer it and Change Your Life.In it, she wrote that your answer to the Miracle Question “reflects the possibility that something very important is and has been missing from your life. It could be something you’ve never experienced yet feel you deserve, or something that you’ve lost and miss terribly.”

Now it’s your turn. Can you answer the miracle question? Most people can quickly and easily rattle off dozens of problems in their life, but struggle when it comes to answering the miracle question. Why? It doesn’t take much insight to find problems, but it takes a lot of introspection to find solutions. When you shift from hating this and that about life and instead dream about what positive changes you want to make, you are focusing on solutions. If you’re feeling brave, feel free to answer the Miracle Question in the comments section.

To help you get started asking better questions, I’ve created the “Richer Life Question of the Week!” I hope these Saturday morning questions will allow you to reflect on where you’ve been and where you’re headed, and I hope they provide you with insight to help you create a more powerful, fuller, richer life. I’ve already found that the real fruit of this exercise is publicly answering each question and reading the community’s responses.

The better your questions, the better your life…

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Robert Pagliarini

Robert Pagliarini is obsessed with improvement, making the most of his time and energy, and inspiring others to live life to the fullest by radically changing the way they invest their time and energy. He is the founder of RicherLife.com, a community of passionate people who want to learn and achieve more in life and at work and the co-founder of The Band of Brothers Foundation, a non-profit helping kids around the world.

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7:33AM PDT on Jun 6, 2012

changing the way you feel about yourself is key

7:43PM PDT on Jun 3, 2012

Thank you Victoria B. my sentiments, exactly. I don't know how anyone can go through life without a faith.

9:22PM PDT on May 29, 2012

Interesting info to ponder...

2:05PM PDT on May 14, 2012

I believe a peace would come over me knowing a miracle has occurred to completely change my life. I have experienced this peace in the past & believe it would manifest itself again in this situation. Yes, there are small miracles everyday, but the question was how would you know if this happened while you slept. The question is not if you believe, but how would you know.

8:51AM PDT on May 9, 2012

Miricles happen all the time. They're simply natural occurences that we don't know how to explain yet.And yes, when you're looking for solutions, things just kinda 'pop' in.
When you always think 'miricles' have to do with religion and you hate religion, of course you won't see miricles. You're stuck in the past with your stinking judgements and then think everybody else is gullible. Pure stupidity.Either intergrate some new info or at least stop repeating yourself because you're wrong.

7:53AM PDT on May 8, 2012

Miracles happen every day. sometimes we're just too preoccupied to notice.
But most of them, though significant, are small. They don't come with the sound of trumpets.

To give an example - to cut a very long story short, I was showing a very lovely friend around London a week or two back. We foud ourselves outside St Paul's cathedral, which has an impossibly high entrance charge, but decided to poke our noses in anyway. And the Admissions table was empty! Not a soul there and the box had gone too. We wandered around to out heart's content.
Later, reading the noticeboard outside, I saw that the catherdral was 'not open to visitors' after 4.00pm. We'd happened to arrive at about 4.05.
I've lived in London for 40+ years, but never seen this before. For my friend, his simplicity and spirituality had made it happen.

9:19PM PDT on May 6, 2012

Interesting

10:40AM PDT on May 6, 2012

That's the bad thing about believing your own dreams (which aren't real), you start believing
in nonexistent fairy tales and forget about the true beauty of the environment and destroy it with abandon.

7:35AM PDT on May 6, 2012

(laughing) you're right, miracles won't/don't happen.. to you.. That's the wonderful thing about God, we're given the choice to believe or not to believe. :) I choose to believe and verbal battery doesn't bother me in the least. It is just blatant ignorance.

5:19AM PDT on May 6, 2012

It makes sense to remember Einstein's quote on miracles. That makes it a choice to accept or not

"There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle.The other is as though everything is a miracle." - Albert Einstein

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