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Are All Moms Perfect?

Celebrate the spirit of Mother’s Day by realizing that the sainted ideal of motherhood is a myth. The reality is that your own mother may have been a wounded soul who overcame her difficulties the best she could. If she was a good mother – or good enough – that’s wonderful. Celebrate her for all she did for you.

If she wasn’t a wonderful mother – or even a good mother – try to remember that she didn’t set out to harm her child or children. Gaining insight into your mother’s childhood may inspire you to move on with your own life. Understanding often makes forgiveness possible. We don’t forgive people just for their sakes – we forgive them for ourselves, as well. Otherwise, anger and resentment just make us bitter and disagreeable. Many people need professional help in making peace with their childhoods. However, once they do, they are then free to improve their own lives.

Even those of us who can look back on our mothers as examples of the idealized mother role will likely see, through the historical view, some flaws. Or maybe we won’t. Maybe we’ll still view our mothers as saints. That’s okay – even commendable – as long as we don’t harbor guilt about our own failings and compare our flawed, human selves to our sainted mothers. Celebrate Mother’s Day remembering the women who’ve helped us throughout our lives all the while coping with their own issues. Celebrate the human mother who gave you life and most likely did the best she could for you.

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Celebrating the Human Side of Motherhood originally appeared on AgingCare.com.

 

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8:22AM PDT on Jul 31, 2012

Since no humans can achieve perfection there is obviously no such thing as the perfect mother or father, husband, wife, child, individual. It often depends on how one regards their own mother when it comes to thinking of Mother's Day. Am sad when hearing that some people who have been sexually abused or otherwise mistreated by one or both parents as mentioned by several people commenting here.

Some of us are lucky and have wonderful mothers and others have mixed reviews or just plain horrific mothers depending on the individuals involved. We all remember and honour (or not in the more horrific cases) or appreciate our moms. Mine passed away back in 1984 from cancer and I like to burn a candle in her memory on certain days.

1:11PM PDT on May 22, 2012

My mother was not perfect, no, but she did do the best she could, rather like this article mentioned. There are certainly points in the comments about mothers who do not do the best they can... but I don't think that is a normal situation. Those mothers are clearly not in their right minds. Not to pardon their actions, but even they are deserving of compassion.

9:30PM PDT on May 20, 2012

No! My mother stood by and allowed my bother to do to me what he wanted. She is jealous of me and has always done things to make me fall and really hurt. I have not seen her in 7 years. My father was dead 10 months until I found out by googling his name and found his obituary. I wish I could say one positive thing about her but mother is not not of them. I am sure there are mothers who are wonderful but, to me that is just a dream.

8:07AM PDT on May 18, 2012

No one is perfect,just do the best you can.

2:43PM PDT on May 15, 2012

Perfectionism is a flaw that tends to encourage other flaws. Don't strive to be perfect. Strive to do the best that you can.

1:29PM PDT on May 14, 2012

No one is perfect.

1:23PM PDT on May 14, 2012

My mother may not be perfect, but she is ok by me. She turned 90 this year and I will be happy to have her for another 90 years.

12:12PM PDT on May 14, 2012

All people, mothers or not, are doing the best they can, WITH THE TOOLS THEY'VE GOT, at any given moment.

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4:27AM PDT on May 12, 2012

my mother is not perfect, but I'm not a perfect daughter...

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