Celebrate the spirit of Mother’s Day by realizing that the sainted ideal of motherhood is a myth. The reality is that your own mother may have been a wounded soul who overcame her difficulties the best she could. If she was a good mother – or good enough – that’s wonderful. Celebrate her for all she did for you.
If she wasn’t a wonderful mother – or even a good mother – try to remember that she didn’t set out to harm her child or children. Gaining insight into your mother’s childhood may inspire you to move on with your own life. Understanding often makes forgiveness possible. We don’t forgive people just for their sakes – we forgive them for ourselves, as well. Otherwise, anger and resentment just make us bitter and disagreeable. Many people need professional help in making peace with their childhoods. However, once they do, they are then free to improve their own lives.
Even those of us who can look back on our mothers as examples of the idealized mother role will likely see, through the historical view, some flaws. Or maybe we won’t. Maybe we’ll still view our mothers as saints. That’s okay – even commendable – as long as we don’t harbor guilt about our own failings and compare our flawed, human selves to our sainted mothers. Celebrate Mother’s Day remembering the women who’ve helped us throughout our lives all the while coping with their own issues. Celebrate the human mother who gave you life and most likely did the best she could for you.