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Child of My Heart: An Adoptive Mom’s Story

Child of My Heart: An Adoptive Mom’s Story

Dear Friends,

A wise man once said something that has always stayed with me:  “The moment a child is born, the mother is also born.  She never existed before.  The woman existed, but the mother, never.  A mother is something absolutely new.”

In that context, my friend Seema was born twice. Once when she gave birth to her daughter, and a few years later, when she adopted a little boy. I am sharing her beautiful story with you, in her own words:

“For me, the decision to adopt was easy, because I have always believed that parenting is not simply biological. It is a function of the heart. Yes, those nine months are special and it is wonderful to experience them, but to me, love is the real glue that binds a mother with her child. My husband did have a few reservations, but after I had a miscarriage followed by a blighted ovum, he knew he couldn’t put me through the pain any more, and welcomed the new addition to our home with an open heart.

Our son came into our life when he was three months old. I told him early on that he was adopted, through simple storytelling. So, it has been part and parcel of his growing up. Our daughter was 6 when we brought him home. I remember the day—she drew a family of four, took leave from school, and was as excited as any little girl waiting to get a baby brother.

One day, I was working in the kitchen when a mosquito bit me. My son promptly swatted it, and told me, ‘Ma, I killed it because it was biting you.’ There was a drop of blood on my arm. I was touched as I watched his eyes grow bigger, and he wondered, ‘Is my blood the same as you  and Daddy’s?’ I told him that although all four of us had the same blood group, we were bound by love, not blood. And that when a mother says ‘my flesh and blood,’ she means that she feels the pain when her child is hurt. I told him, ‘I feel that pain for you.’ And he gave me the tightest hug.

So, I know that he does think about a few things, and has his adjustments and acceptances to make, but I think I am able to make it more comfortable for him by being open and gentle about it all.

I am sometimes asked if it has been a challenge to balance my parenting between a child that I made and a child that I made my own. The answer is yes! But amusingly, it is my daughter who would sometimes roll her eyes and complain, ‘so I only came from your womb, and he came from your heart?!’”

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Shubhra Krishan

Writer, editor and journalist Shubhra Krishan is the author of Essential Ayurveda: What it is and what it can do for you (New World Library, 2003), Radiant Body, Restful Mind: A Woman's book of comfort (New World Library, 2004), and The 9 to 5 Yogi: How to feel like a sage while working like a dog (Hay House India, 2011).

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11:38PM PST on Feb 11, 2014

So Nice! Thanks for sharing.

9:39AM PST on Dec 7, 2012

Thanks, I think adopting is one of the greatest acts of love.

2:38AM PDT on Jul 9, 2012

inspiring story.

6:35AM PST on Mar 9, 2012

love the thought "a child from my heart"

1:07PM PST on Mar 5, 2012

Thank you, a very touching article.

11:15AM PST on Feb 29, 2012

a very great story! i was adopted too :)

3:01AM PST on Feb 24, 2012

My grandson, adopted at 4 months from Guatemala, now 8, is the joy of our life. He knew from the beginning that we were so lucky to find him and although he has a birth mother, my daughter told him she is his "forever mommy." He knows we are a family, and we love him more than words can say. We are so blessed to have been given this beautiful gift.

5:48PM PST on Feb 23, 2012

Beautiful story of love from the heart. Both of this kids are lucky to have these parents.

1:20PM PST on Feb 23, 2012

beautiful! More power to adoption!

1:14PM PST on Feb 23, 2012

Lovely story.

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