The first step toward transforming our past pain is to revisit it and gently clear it away. Then you can begin to change your negative life story, whatever it is: your abandonment, your being unloved, your living in continual fear or anger. After clearing away your past pain, you can begin to co-create a more positive life-story.

This powerful meditation is designed to help you do just that. Read it here:

Your goal is to return to the place of harmony where energies flow more easily and fluidly, but before you can do that, you must first return to the source of your pain. This is how you do it.

Breathe in and out three times. Return back to the first time you felt fear and anxiety. How old are you? What is the event? Where is the pain located? Who are the people involved? Allow yourself to feel the pain as you felt it then. Do not shy away from it. Acknowledge your pain. You don’t want to do it the injury of separating from it again. Feel it completely. Breathe out once. Move forward to the next event you can remember where you felt fear and anxiety. Do so for as many events as you can remember, at this time, where you felt fear and anxiety. Thus move forward in time until you reach the present moment.

You can’t help a suffering child by telling him to stop crying. First you must comfort him. If you don’t comfort him, he may stop crying to make you happy but he won’t be at one with you. The separation will still very much be there.

Eventually, you think the crisis is over, since his tears have stopped flowing. However, his tears have stopped flowing because they have crystallized. Soon he is living in a “room of tears.” Your task is to find your crystallized tears and allow them to flow. Your “seeing” is the comforting parent of your tears. When your tears flow, the river can return to the ocean.