Dependency and Denial
In every crisis, suffering can be alleviated at the energy level. But you donít have to assume the whole burden yourself. To access deeper, more stubborn energy, ask for guidance. For some people, the presence of spiritual guides such as angels, masters, saints, deities, boddhisatvas, and deceased loved ones brings reassurance and help.
Intend that helpers come to you in any form and at any time. Then remain alert and follow the hints that spirit gives you. You are being heard. Your soul is able to guide you to any help that you need. Ultimately, no matter who responds to you, it is your own true self responding.
As long as you look the other way, illusion persists, so you must pay attention. Do this by sitting quietly and with firm but gentle resolve ask for your true feelings to come forward. Be with any source of pain in your body. Feel it directly, no matter where it is. Now ask the pain of every kind to gather in your heart. As it gathers, ask each aspect of suffering to name itself. Be as specific as possible.
Having defined specifically the exact emotion you are experiencing, whether it is fear, anger, guilt, or depression, express the origins of this feeling to yourself through writing or journaling. Be careful not to use the language of victimization. Once you have completed this task, share these feelings with someone you can trust.
Next you may release them through a ritual of your own devising–such as dancing, or burning the papers on which you have written down your experiences. Finally, celebrate the release of this blocked energy. Instead of denying your suffering, which only prolongs it, now you have defined, expressed, shared, released, and celebrated it–and moved on.
Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).