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Discover the Secret to Happiness

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Discover the Secret to Happiness

By The Chopra Well

People have pursued the Holy Grail, the philosopher’s stone, and the origins of life. And in this week’s episode of The Chopra Well’s Spiritual Solutions, we investigate another quintessential mystery: What is the secret to happiness?

In an earlier episode, Deepak Chopra responded to a similar inquiry: Does true happiness exist? He explained that striving for happiness and fulfillment is an ongoing process – really a life journey. I have noticed that my own process entails exercising conscious decision-making. I make minor tweaks as I go, constantly learning from experiences that came before.

But is there one single most important ingredient to happiness? Turns out, according to Deepak, that making someone else happy is what provides the strongest, most immediate boost to our own sense of fulfillment. There is ample research to support this claim. Happy people donate more money to charity than rich people do. Giving a gift is more satisfactory than receiving one. Being ‘neighborly’ and kind translates to being happy.

You can be happy right now by making someone else happy. Follow the three A’s: Attention, Appreciation, and Affection. First, listen to the person and give them your full attention. Next, notice and identify a strength of theirs, and verbalize the trait you appreciate. Finally, communicate your affection for them. Even if you think they already know or it seems unnecessary, it never hurts to reach out and let someone know you care.

This should be a relatively simple, straightforward prescription. But many, myself included, find it difficult to actually reach out to someone. Why is it so hard to say “I love you” or to ask someone if they need a hand? I think a heightened awareness of “awkwardness” is what gets in our way. God forbid we should appear strange, uncoordinated, or overly emotive. Better to stay ‘over here’ where we are safe and contained, than to attempt to connect with someone and risk feeling awkward.

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3:31PM PDT on Aug 23, 2012

Thank you.

7:59AM PDT on Aug 22, 2012

Thank you for this - I shall try to do something kind every day from now on! (To myself, too. And sometimes the kind thing might be a long-term kindness that feels like short-term cruelty, like getting on with rewrites...)

11:51PM PDT on Aug 17, 2012

Generosity is the path to happiness.

5:52PM PDT on Aug 17, 2012

sreća je biti zadovoljan u duši,ne oslanjati se na materjalizam,ne biti bahat i pohleban,osvrnuti se oko sebe,pomoći onima kojima je pomoć potrebna.

5:36PM PDT on Aug 17, 2012

Happiness is created by loving and sending out loving thoughts, which are potent energies. They do come back like a boomerang. I believe romantic love is beautiful, but even greater is the happiness derived from a loving connection with the Source of Creation...our Father-Creator. It is empowering to know you are never alone. Knowing that one's every thought and need is known...and by being in sync...your needs will be met. Happiness is a profound need, because it radiates out and touches every person you meet.

4:56PM PDT on Aug 17, 2012

Wise words of love. Thank you.

12:29PM PDT on Aug 17, 2012

Such a great topic, as usual for our Chopra readers!
- as embracing the universe as our own heavenly body -
We find our happiness is everywhere we are.

11:33AM PDT on Aug 17, 2012


Triple "A" indeed!

3:48AM PDT on Aug 17, 2012

thank you

3:47AM PDT on Aug 17, 2012


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