START A PETITION 27,000,000 members: the world's largest community for good

Do You Believe in Santa, Mommy?

Do You Believe in Santa, Mommy?

Christmas is in 20 days and I am not sure how I want to talk about Santa Claus with my 6-year-old.

On the one hand, I am a ridiculously honest person. In fact, it would probably help my relationships if I were a bit less fastidious about the truth. But on the other hand, it feels wrong to take the mystery and magic of Santa Claus away from sweet little girls.

So whatís the middle ground, and how do I maintain that magic? Is it OK to outright lie about Santa?

So far, I haven’t been able to tell my kids that Santa Claus exists. But they believe. We have read books about Santa, and theyíve visited the jolly fellow in the shopping center. I perpetuate the story by filling their Christmas stockings with goodies, and even eat some of the cookies they leave out. But Iíve never told them that Santa shoots down our chimney into our gas-powered fireplace with loot. And when they ask, Iíve always said, ďWell, what do YOU think?Ē

This year, however, my budding 6-year-old is just getting so canny. Iím sure sheís going to ask me some question that forces me to tip my hand, and I just canít lie to her. So what will I say if she outright asks me if Santa is real?

I could say that Iím not 100 percent sure, but I do believe in things that I cannot see. Is it possible that thereís a fellow calling himself Santa somewhere in the world, doing the sorts of deeds Santa has been known to do? Absolutely. And for me, that sort of kindness and compassion is perhaps the most wonderful magic in our world. In fact, I could even tell her that Santa could be anyone, and she could even be a Santa herself.

But what do I say if she asks who leaves the gifts and eats the cookies? Maybe I tell her that her dad and I do it because weíre so lucky that we can. Because if we help the real Santa out, he can focus his energy on children who have far less than we do.

But Iím not sure. What would YOU say?

Who Needs Santa Claus?

Read more: Babies, Children, Family

have you shared this story yet?

go ahead, give it a little love


+ add your own
3:21AM PDT on Mar 27, 2013


4:50AM PST on Dec 20, 2012

This is not my creation but a FB and I have no idea who to give credit for it.

You asked a really good question, "Are Mom and Dad really Santa?" We know that you want to know the answer and we had to give it careful thought to know just what to say.

The answer is no. We are not Santa. There is no one, single Santa.

We are the people who fill your stockng and choose and wrap the presents under the tree - just as our parents did for us and their parents did for them and you will do for your kids some day,

This could never make any of us Santa, though Santa is lots and lots of people who keep the Spirit of Christmas alive in our hearts - not at the North Pole. Santa is the magic and love and spirit of giving to others. What he does teach children is to believe in something they can't see or touch. Throughout your life you will need this capacity to believe in yourself, in your family, in your friends and in God. You'll need to be able to believe in things you can't measure or hold in your hands.

Now you know the secret of how he gets down all of those chimneys on Christmas Eve: he has help from all of the people whose hearts he has filled with joy.

With full hearts, people like Mommy and Daddy take our turns helping Santa do a job that would be impossible. So no, we are not Santa. Santa is love and magic and hope and happiness. We are on his team, and now you are too.

We love you and always will.

mom and dad

2:04PM PST on Dec 12, 2012

Jane M.: The day I STOP believing in Santa Claus is the day I buy a gun, buy some ammo, load a single bullet and eat the bullet, because that is the day I know I'm TOO DAMNED OLD TO GO ON LIVING. I'm 34 and I still believe in him. If the USMC as an institution believes in him enough to do their Toys for Tots drive and have one of their own dress like him, that's good enough for me!

1:50PM PST on Dec 12, 2012

Its a relief that we do not have to pretend Santa is real. Good luck!

2:16PM PST on Dec 11, 2012

Thank you

9:40AM PST on Dec 11, 2012

Thank you

3:47PM PST on Dec 10, 2012

Dear Hilary: It may interest you and your readers to know that my legal name is Santa Claus. I serve as a volunteer advocate for the 2 million children in the U.S. annually who are abused, neglected, exploited, abandoned, homeless, and institutionalized in our great nation. I'm also a Monk and believe that Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Christ, not the crass, commercial, secular spectacle it has become in many places, and that the greatest gift one can give is love, not presents. Blessings to all, Santa (TheSanta(im))

11:12AM PST on Dec 10, 2012

I believe in Santa Claus, I mean he's coming every christmas, isn't he...???

4:02AM PST on Dec 18, 2011


8:18AM PDT on Sep 20, 2011


add your comment

Disclaimer: The views expressed above are solely those of the author and may not reflect those of
Care2, Inc., its employees or advertisers.

people are talking

thank you for the good info

He looks so sad laying there, keeps saying please. Thank you for caring and sharing.

Hate the term superfood but love cantaloupe.

Gonna try the peel on my teeth if I remember just for gigs


Select names from your address book   |   Help

We hate spam. We do not sell or share the email addresses you provide.