Do You Believe in Santa, Mommy?
Christmas is in 20 days and I am not sure how I want to talk about Santa Claus with my 6-year-old.
On the one hand, I am a ridiculously honest person. In fact, it would probably help my relationships if I were a bit less fastidious about the truth. But on the other hand, it feels wrong to take the mystery and magic of Santa Claus away from sweet little girls.
So whatís the middle ground, and how do I maintain that magic? Is it OK to outright lie about Santa?
So far, I haven’t been able to tell my kids that Santa Claus exists. But they believe. We have read books about Santa, and theyíve visited the jolly fellow in the shopping center. I perpetuate the story by filling their Christmas stockings with goodies, and even eat some of the cookies they leave out. But Iíve never told them that Santa shoots down our chimney into our gas-powered fireplace with loot. And when they ask, Iíve always said, ďWell, what do YOU think?Ē
This year, however, my budding 6-year-old is just getting so canny. Iím sure sheís going to ask me some question that forces me to tip my hand, and I just canít lie to her. So what will I say if she outright asks me if Santa is real?
I could say that Iím not 100 percent sure, but I do believe in things that I cannot see. Is it possible that thereís a fellow calling himself Santa somewhere in the world, doing the sorts of deeds Santa has been known to do? Absolutely. And for me, that sort of kindness and compassion is perhaps the most wonderful magic in our world. In fact, I could even tell her that Santa could be anyone, and she could even be a Santa herself.
But what do I say if she asks who leaves the gifts and eats the cookies? Maybe I tell her that her dad and I do it because weíre so lucky that we can. Because if we help the real Santa out, he can focus his energy on children who have far less than we do.
But Iím not sure. What would YOU say?
Who Needs Santa Claus?