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Do You Nag?

Do You Nag?

As common as nagging may be, turns out it’s still harmful to your relationship. In fact, a survey by YourTango.com found that 60% of male and 44% of female survey respondents consider nagging a problem in their relationship—enough for it to lead to less frequent and less satisfying sex. The really troubling news? A mere 15% of respondents say they’re good at resolving conflicts as a couple. Uh-oh.

 

The top subjects of nagging?

1. Needing more attention from partner

2. Asking partner to help with housework

3. Asking partner to pick up after themselves

 

Interestingly, men and women say they have different reasons for nagging. Men say that it’s just habit, while women nag to vent frustration. And married women in particular say nagging is effective—that their partner only does something when asked multiple times. But good news, guys: women get tired of it eventually, in a couple of decades. The survey found that 42% of women age 18-34 give their partner a gentle reminder the day after they first asked them to do something. But by the time they reach the 45+ demographic, only 30% of women give a reminder, opting instead to “be annoyed” and complete the task themselves.

 

What do YOU nag about? Do you think it’s a problem in your relationship?

 

 

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Diana Vilibert

Diana Vilibert is a freelance writer living in Brooklyn. You can be blog-friends with her at dianavilibert.com, or tweet her at @dianavilibert.

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3:33AM PDT on Apr 3, 2013

Thank you :)

3:48PM PDT on Mar 22, 2013

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10:38AM PST on Feb 20, 2013

Nagging can be helpful sometimes, but eventually one needs to re evaluate the relationship, if the same topic keeps coming up, and the partner simply does not want to put equal time and effort into ALL aspects of the relationship, one needs to consider moving on to someone who is more willing to do their part.

2:03PM PST on Feb 4, 2013

Mari, I totally agree with that sentiment.

3:03AM PST on Jan 8, 2013

Thanks ...

2:43PM PST on Dec 17, 2012

I don't nag and neither does my boyfriend. We respect each others decisions and independence and we also allow each other to make mistakes instead of nagging each other which is frankly very irritating.

11:04AM PST on Dec 9, 2012

I've never nagged, have been hammered with nagging in the past. It's irritating, to say the least.

4:58PM PST on Dec 1, 2012

If you want something done, do it yourself! Trying to control another person is abuse.

3:53AM PST on Nov 30, 2012

I hate it! Why not talk to eachother normalyThat would be nice:-)

5:37PM PST on Nov 24, 2012

It is difficult sometimes. The husband says he'll do x by y date. He doesn't do it and doesn't do it. Do I nag or let it go? Sometimes he'll eventually do it. Sometimes I'll do it for him, but that might make me feel resentful. Then it becomes an issue, not over the original chore "x", but over why he didn't do what he said.

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