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Do You Suffer in Silence?

Do You Suffer in Silence?

Emotional boundaries are passed on from one generation to the next. Therapists can spend years with some patients before they will open up. Respect your defenses even while working to dissolve them. Inner walls don’t come crashing down; they melt. So don’t think anyone expects you to bravely assault your defenses and plunge through them like a warrior. Your greatest weapons are willingness, honesty, and patience.

Having made a space for trusting yourself, you now need someone else to trust. Healing is not a matter of solitary work. Don’t automatically put your best friend, spouse, or big sister at the top of your list. Be objective about who is emotionally available and who isn’t. Look for someone who is tolerant and accepting of their own flaws, someone who listens well and doesn’t impose their own judgments on others.

These are people you can begin to trust. Approach such a person and ask permission to share one kind of distress that you really want to talk about. Sharing is crucial, for if you expect them to be open to you, it is only fair that you be open to them.

Your intention is to bring shy, hidden, embarrassing, guilty, or shameful energies to view. This exposure sets the stage for dealing with these energies.

Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.

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4:01AM PDT on May 18, 2015

I tend to be more implosive then explosive under stress. But its not a nice feeling. More hugs!

3:30AM PDT on May 9, 2015

i agree with topic

4:54AM PDT on May 4, 2015

Hug to everyone that is suffering at this moment

7:42AM PDT on Oct 12, 2014

It's called Internal considering, or internal churning, and I have a doctorate in this.

6:05AM PDT on Oct 12, 2014


12:13PM PDT on Sep 28, 2014

Thanks for sharing:)

11:52PM PDT on Aug 31, 2014

Thank you.

11:52PM PDT on Aug 31, 2014

Thank you.

11:28AM PDT on Jul 15, 2014


3:30AM PDT on Jul 4, 2014


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