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Do You Suffer in Silence?

Do You Suffer in Silence?

Emotional boundaries are passed on from one generation to the next. Therapists can spend years with some patients before they will open up. Respect your defenses even while working to dissolve them. Inner walls don’t come crashing down; they melt. So don’t think anyone expects you to bravely assault your defenses and plunge through them like a warrior. Your greatest weapons are willingness, honesty, and patience.

Having made a space for trusting yourself, you now need someone else to trust. Healing is not a matter of solitary work. Don’t automatically put your best friend, spouse, or big sister at the top of your list. Be objective about who is emotionally available and who isn’t. Look for someone who is tolerant and accepting of their own flaws, someone who listens well and doesn’t impose their own judgments on others.

These are people you can begin to trust. Approach such a person and ask permission to share one kind of distress that you really want to talk about. Sharing is crucial, for if you expect them to be open to you, it is only fair that you be open to them.

Your intention is to bring shy, hidden, embarrassing, guilty, or shameful energies to view. This exposure sets the stage for dealing with these energies.

Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.

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12:13PM PDT on Sep 28, 2014

Thanks for sharing:)

11:52PM PDT on Aug 31, 2014

Thank you.

11:52PM PDT on Aug 31, 2014

Thank you.

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2:46PM PDT on Jul 3, 2014

Thanks for sharing, the feeling of opening up to someone is so relieving once you find the courage to do so.

5:46AM PDT on Jul 3, 2014

Sounds an interesting book as well

2:37PM PDT on Jun 29, 2014


2:30AM PDT on Jun 24, 2014

Thank you.

3:31AM PST on Mar 7, 2014

nice sharing

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