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Does Size Matter?

Penile enlargement surgery is the only permanent solution for penis size. † The surgery can cost anywhere between $5,000 -$17,000. † Generally it can add no more than one inch in length. †Another procedure, dermal implant is used to increase girth. †Like all surgical procedures, complications arise. † The short term solution that many men use for temporary engorgement of the penis are vacuum or penis pumps. † Vacuum pumps are clinically tested and require a prescription. †They are often prescribed for erectile dysfunction. †Penis pumps are sold in adult stores and on line. †Some do not have adequate release mechanisms so that there is a risk of blood vessel rupture. †All pumps †work by drawing blood quickly into the penis and using a constriction ring which keeps the blood in the penis. †Some are more effective than others and some are downright dangerous, so be sure to investigate before purchasing. †None of the topical or pill treatments that fill the din of noise making about penis enlargement have shown any clinical success, so donít waste your money.

In a web study of over 50,000 heterosexual men and women 85 percent of women were satisfied with their partnerís penis size compared with only 55 percent of the men. †In an all womenís study, penis size was considered very important by less than 25 percent of participants. Even among the 50 percent of women who said it was somewhat important, sexual skill and taking the time and attention for their partner ranked higher. †”It’s a myth that using the penis is the main way to pleasure a woman,” says Ian Kerner, PhD, a sex and relationships counselor in New York City whose book She Comes First offers a guide to “female orgasms and producing them through inspired oral techniques.” In his book, Kerner cites a study that reports women reaching orgasm about 25 percent of the time with intercourse, compared with 81 percent of the time during oral sex.

Becoming an accomplished lover, a guy that no woman in her right mind would leave has way more to do with the desire and intention to be a great lover than it does your penis size. In fact, spending time in the study and practice of being an incredible lover is perhaps one of the healthiest ways to let go of your concerns about your genital size. By refocusing your energy and curiosity on the amazing mysteries of pleasuring your partner, not only your skills, but your self esteem will rise. †Breaking through one of the biggest sex lies of all time, that a manís sexuality is a reflection of his penis size is a gift that you give your partner as much as yourself.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.† In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,† she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative advice.†It has been called "the essential guide for relationships." †The book is available on ebook.† Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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2:49AM PDT on Sep 8, 2013

How long is a piece of string ?

4:21PM PDT on Mar 29, 2013

Confession bear: I like small penises o_o

4:02PM PDT on Mar 27, 2013

Forget the's all about the technique!!!

9:35AM PDT on Oct 11, 2012

the more i write
the more turned on i'm getting,..... !!!

9:11AM PDT on Oct 11, 2012

old phrase:
it's not the size of the stick
but the magic in the wand*

8:23AM PDT on Oct 11, 2012

i dont think i can feel romantic love!
so sad.

8:08AM PDT on Oct 11, 2012

Love is all that matters

3:22PM PDT on Oct 10, 2012

That depends on the size of the vagina

3:06PM PDT on Oct 10, 2012

only if you need a magnifying glass and tweezers to find it

4:16PM PDT on May 12, 2012

"Does Size Matter?"

“We equate masculinity and power with penis size"

I have never heard ANY woman (except myself) talk about penis size, women only talk about
LOVE, cuddling and whether their husband remembers their anniversary. All my life I believed the MYTH that SIZE DOESN'T MATTER. That's a lie perpetrated by MEN with SMALL PENISES. Sure, a woman can orgasm with a finger, but that's not nearly as satisfying as a big thick penis hitting a woman's G spot and causing that liquid to squirt out.
Sure, men can use their fingers to do that too, but it's not nearly as satisfying as feeling that
huge thick penis poking the cervix. I guess it's because it's NATURAL. Male, female relationships are more complex than "just" penis size. I think men with small penises should hook up with women with small vaginas. There's probably a perfect penis for every vagina and every woman should try out a lot of them until she finds one she really likes.
30% of young women and 50% of older women don't even like sex so they should get men
with small penises because size won't matter to them anyway. Instead of men freaking out and getting mental problems over their tiny penises they should just find women who like tiny penises, there are plenty of them out there. I don't need a professor to tell me how fantastic small penises are, I went out and found out for myself. Big penises rock!

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Thanks Michelle. Great article and very good info.The links to the studies and reports was quite inf…

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