Does Size Matter?

The male sexual organs are a complex and well orchestrated center of sensitivity andfunctionality. †Unfortunately, rarely do the questions concerning this organ system evolve beyond the issue of size. †The confusion between genital size and sexual satisfaction is perhaps one of the most damaging and rampant sexual myths on the planet. †Teasing apart the insecurity and confidence that defines our sexual selves comes for both men and women through a maturing comfort with our bodies erotic instruments.

The anxiety that many if not most men feel about their penis size is as universal as the misconception that it is the penis that is the ringleader when it comes to sexual satisfaction and prowess. “We equate masculinity and power with penis size,” says Ira Sharlip, MD, clinical professor of urology at the University of California at San Francisco and president of the International Society for Sexual Medicine. “Of course, there’s really no relationship.” Still, Sharlip says, “all” of his patients want to increase their penis size.†The anxiety attached to penis size has shown up in many studies, where men clearly overestimate the size of the average penis and consistently underestimate their own by comparison. †For the record, the average male penis is flaccid (not erect): from 3.4 inches to 3.7 inches (8.6 cm to 9.3 cm), erect from 5.1 inches to 5.7 inches (12.9 cm to 14.5 cm) and average penis girth (circumference when erect): from 3.5 inches to 3.9 inches (8.8 cm to 10 cm).

Sadly, many other studies confirm this same finding, that men tend to compare themselves in a way that is likely to end up with a negative evaluation. This might be, in part, because most pornographic depiction of penis size does not reflect the average manís penis. He got the job because he was so bigÖ Even men who are considering the painful process of surgical penile enlargement more often than not have average size penises even though they would describe themselves as having unusually small penises.

Penile enlargement surgery is the only permanent solution for penis size. † The surgery can cost anywhere between $5,000 -$17,000. † Generally it can add no more than one inch in length. †Another procedure, dermal implant is used to increase girth. †Like all surgical procedures, complications arise. † The short term solution that many men use for temporary engorgement of the penis are vacuum or penis pumps. † Vacuum pumps are clinically tested and require a prescription. †They are often prescribed for erectile dysfunction. †Penis pumps are sold in adult stores and on line. †Some do not have adequate release mechanisms so that there is a risk of blood vessel rupture. †All pumps †work by drawing blood quickly into the penis and using a constriction ring which keeps the blood in the penis. †Some are more effective than others and some are downright dangerous, so be sure to investigate before purchasing. †None of the topical or pill treatments that fill the din of noise making about penis enlargement have shown any clinical success, so donít waste your money.

In a web study of over 50,000 heterosexual men and women 85 percent of women were satisfied with their partnerís penis size compared with only 55 percent of the men. †In an all womenís study, penis size was considered very important by less than 25 percent of participants. Even among the 50 percent of women who said it was somewhat important, sexual skill and taking the time and attention for their partner ranked higher. †”It’s a myth that using the penis is the main way to pleasure a woman,” says Ian Kerner, PhD, a sex and relationships counselor in New York City whose book She Comes First offers a guide to “female orgasms and producing them through inspired oral techniques.” In his book, Kerner cites a study that reports women reaching orgasm about 25 percent of the time with intercourse, compared with 81 percent of the time during oral sex.

Becoming an accomplished lover, a guy that no woman in her right mind would leave has way more to do with the desire and intention to be a great lover than it does your penis size. In fact, spending time in the study and practice of being an incredible lover is perhaps one of the healthiest ways to let go of your concerns about your genital size. By refocusing your energy and curiosity on the amazing mysteries of pleasuring your partner, not only your skills, but your self esteem will rise. †Breaking through one of the biggest sex lies of all time, that a manís sexuality is a reflection of his penis size is a gift that you give your partner as much as yourself.

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Gerry Wall
Gerry Wall3 years ago

How long is a piece of string ?

Albert Wrzesinski

Confession bear: I like small penises o_o

Natasha Salgado
natasha salgado3 years ago

Forget the's all about the technique!!!

Dot A.
Dot A.4 years ago

the more i write
the more turned on i'm getting,..... !!!

Dot A.
Dot A.4 years ago

old phrase:
it's not the size of the stick
but the magic in the wand*

Colleen Prinssen
Colleen Prinssen4 years ago

i dont think i can feel romantic love!
so sad.

Patricia H.
Patricia H.4 years ago

Love is all that matters

Frank S.
Past Member 4 years ago

That depends on the size of the vagina

Terry V.
Terry V.4 years ago

only if you need a magnifying glass and tweezers to find it

Jane Barton
Jane Barton4 years ago

"Does Size Matter?"

“We equate masculinity and power with penis size"

I have never heard ANY woman (except myself) talk about penis size, women only talk about
LOVE, cuddling and whether their husband remembers their anniversary. All my life I believed the MYTH that SIZE DOESN'T MATTER. That's a lie perpetrated by MEN with SMALL PENISES. Sure, a woman can orgasm with a finger, but that's not nearly as satisfying as a big thick penis hitting a woman's G spot and causing that liquid to squirt out.
Sure, men can use their fingers to do that too, but it's not nearly as satisfying as feeling that
huge thick penis poking the cervix. I guess it's because it's NATURAL. Male, female relationships are more complex than "just" penis size. I think men with small penises should hook up with women with small vaginas. There's probably a perfect penis for every vagina and every woman should try out a lot of them until she finds one she really likes.
30% of young women and 50% of older women don't even like sex so they should get men
with small penises because size won't matter to them anyway. Instead of men freaking out and getting mental problems over their tiny penises they should just find women who like tiny penises, there are plenty of them out there. I don't need a professor to tell me how fantastic small penises are, I went out and found out for myself. Big penises rock!