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Donít Kick The Habit

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Donít Kick The Habit

I know you just made resolutions, but donít try to stop smoking. Donít give up booze. Donít throw out your pot. Donít ditch the donuts.

While youíre at it, donít join the gym. Donít try to meditate every day. Donít promise to get over your money issues. Donít resolve to lose 20 pounds.

Donít quit the job you hate. Donít leave your deadbeat boyfriend. Donít try to be a better mother/ daughter/ friend. Donít give up internet porn.

Donít finish that novel. Donít sign up for that art class. Donít declutter your house. Donít get out of debt.

When you make promises to yourself before youíre ready to make big change, you just prove to yourself what youíve suspected all along – that you donít have the willpower, youíre not trustworthy, and you never follow through on your word.

You pay big bucks to Jenny Craig, but you never follow the program. You sign up for the art class, but you donít start painting. You look at your computer, but you donít write your novel. You look up 12 step programs but then you never go. You sign up for that†green juice cleanse and then you never cleanse. You pay the $99 every month, but you donít actually go to the gym. You make a budget but then you donít follow it. You break up with your boyfriend and two days later, you sleep with him. You try to quit your job until they offer you a raise and you get sucked in again.

Every time you make a promise to yourself that you donít keep, you feel like shit. And when you feel like shit, what do you do? You smoke that cigarette/ eat that ice cream/ start jonesing for that drug or that sex or your couch potato lifestyle. When you make promises to yourself that you donít keep, you make the habit worse.

Instead, wait until youíve decided†itís really time.

Draw the line in the sand.

Refuse to accept anything less than 100 percent recovery.

Know that this time, itís for real. And mean it.

Trust that once you decide youíre really ready, it will be easy. Youíll break the habit in a blink. Youíll never look back.

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at† and also created two online communities -† and† She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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6:23PM PST on Feb 7, 2012


1:58AM PST on Feb 1, 2012

I love that phrase, "It will come from within, and it will be easy, and it will be permanent." I am still waiting. Hopefully, it will be some time soon.

8:12PM PST on Jan 30, 2012

Thanks for helping mew meet my goals!

3:57PM PST on Jan 24, 2012

thank you!

8:58AM PST on Jan 24, 2012

Thank you for the article:))

8:52AM PST on Jan 24, 2012

Great article! Thank you

7:52AM PST on Jan 24, 2012

Thanks for the article.

2:29PM PST on Jan 23, 2012

I LOVE THIS! It is so true

7:10PM PST on Jan 22, 2012

And what if the day never comes that we decide we have to and want to quit whatever it is that is holding us hostage? We just die with the knowledge that if we had tried we might have succeded at stoping a bad habit and lived longer???

9:56AM PST on Jan 22, 2012

I was confused at the beginning of this article, much like Ryder W. But I continued reading, and now I understand. I must agree, Lissa. I can proudly say I've followed through on my resolutions almost flawlessly for my entire life, and it was for exactly the reason explained in this article: I didn't aim too high.
This year my resolution is to ignore my hair (i just spent two years actively growing it and i'm finally satisfied with the length). I think I can handle this year's resolution. ^_^

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