I know you just made resolutions, but donít try to stop smoking. Donít give up booze. Donít throw out your pot. Donít ditch the donuts.
While youíre at it, donít join the gym. Donít try to meditate every day. Donít promise to get over your money issues. Donít resolve to lose 20 pounds.
Donít quit the job you hate. Donít leave your deadbeat boyfriend. Donít try to be a better mother/ daughter/ friend. Donít give up internet porn.
Donít finish that novel. Donít sign up for that art class. Donít declutter your house. Donít get out of debt.
When you make promises to yourself before youíre ready to make big change, you just prove to yourself what youíve suspected all along – that you donít have the willpower, youíre not trustworthy, and you never follow through on your word.
You pay big bucks to Jenny Craig, but you never follow the program. You sign up for the art class, but you donít start painting. You look at your computer, but you donít write your novel. You look up 12 step programs but then you never go. You sign up for that†green juice cleanse and then you never cleanse. You pay the $99 every month, but you donít actually go to the gym. You make a budget but then you donít follow it. You break up with your boyfriend and two days later, you sleep with him. You try to quit your job until they offer you a raise and you get sucked in again.
Every time you make a promise to yourself that you donít keep, you feel like shit. And when you feel like shit, what do you do? You smoke that cigarette/ eat that ice cream/ start jonesing for that drug or that sex or your couch potato lifestyle. When you make promises to yourself that you donít keep, you make the habit worse.
Instead, wait until youíve decided†itís really time.
Draw the line in the sand.
Refuse to accept anything less than 100 percent recovery.
Know that this time, itís for real. And mean it.
Trust that once you decide youíre really ready, it will be easy. Youíll break the habit in a blink. Youíll never look back.