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Embracing Our Girlytude

When I first created Owning Pink, it was all about just owning our girlytude. Though our community has evolved into something far, far greater – a place where we are free to be precisely who we are and hold space for others to do the same – it all started as an invitation to OWN the parts of ourselves that make us uniquely female (and, as such, powerful beyond imagine).

Frankly, I revel in the fact that I was born a woman.

As a baby girl, I got to wear frilly tutu confections and pink head frosting. As a toddler, I wrapped baby dolls in blankets and held them tight to my chest so they could nurse from my breasts, just like my mother did with my baby brother. As a young girl, I pranced like a princess, pirouetted on tippy toe, and painted rainbows and unicorns in pastel purples, teal green, sunshine yellow, and carnation pink. I donned tiaras and twirled batons and collected china dolls with porcelain faces and rosebud lips. I curled my hair with pin curls, took hula dancing lessons, and wore panties with ruffles.

Growing into my teen years, I toned down my prissyness a wee bit, just to be cool — but I doubt I fooled anyone. Princess costumes made way for pointe shoes, singing at the top of my lungs in high school musicals, and wrist corsages adorning hoop skirt prom dresses. As I got older, my unique femininity evolved. Cancan dancing with my girlfriends to the tunes of Grease trained me well for sashaying my hips to salsa music while wearing a white silk bridal gown and delicate veil. Sitting around campfire circles with my karmic sisters led to giggles and grins and glorious tales of girlness.

The Female Experience

Later, when my body flourished with the ultimate face of femininity, round and curvy with a baby moving inside of me, I came to experience the female experience as something even deeper than tutus and pastels and prom dresses. As a soon-to-be-mother, you learn to appreciate your body for the vessel that it is, the pluripotential creator of all life. Then, as the mother of a daughter, the whole cycle begins anew, and I revel in the girlytude of my little one, who spins and twirls and wants me to curl her hair and paint her toenails. It’s enough to make me deeply appreciate the divine feminine within me and within all women. I find myself bowing deeply to the sacred Goddess I know I am, deep in the heart of me.

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.  She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.  Lissa blogs at and also created two online communities - and She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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12:27PM PDT on Oct 24, 2013

I used to wish I was a boy, because I envied their opportunities and confidence. I don't wear pink, have never wanted children, but am glad I'm a woman now. I feel stronger because I've worked to create my own confidence and opportunities.

4:35PM PDT on Sep 29, 2010

Amazing! Thanks :)

Girl POWER !!

3:51PM PDT on Sep 9, 2010


1:49PM PDT on Sep 8, 2010

beautiful as usual, thank you!

11:11AM PDT on Sep 7, 2010

I'm not a girly girl, I am a woman. Like Amanda and otehrs have said, I hated pink, was a big tomboy, and don't do make-up, purses, bras, etc. Yet I have been married, born, nursed and raised a daughter and had many lovers. At 56, I still play soccer and lift weights with the "boys", bike, hike, etc. Being a woman is not about pink, it's about strength and wisdom and sharing love.

3:31AM PDT on Sep 7, 2010


5:02AM PDT on Sep 6, 2010

very well

5:00AM PDT on Sep 6, 2010

Dear Lissa, thanks for that Girly Girl stuff. You described my young life to a T! Only trouble was my Dad was rather disturbed by the direction of my childhood.

See he mistakenly thought that, because I had a penis I was going to act like a little boy! But NOOOOO. Boy was he surprised!

10:39PM PDT on Sep 5, 2010

All my life I've associated being "girly" with being weak. I grew up a tomboy and still hate the colour pink.

But I was shocked when someone told me I am quite feminine :D and encouraged me to enhance my femininity as it adds rather than detracts to me being a better person.

3:48PM PDT on Sep 5, 2010

I have girly girl days and tomboy days--I am pretty independent--have never been married--love the freedom--however love fashion and my creative side--love to nurture my animals--hate violence to poor innocent creatures-am vegetarian--can kick someone ass if they deserve it--dont know think I am a bit of both.

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