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Falling In Love

Falling In Love

If you can begin to see how your notion of spirit has been shaped by your early childhood, you can start to look at love as a mirror of the present instead of the past.

The intense desirability of another person isn’t innate in that person. Desire is born in the one who desires. If your underlying self-image is that of a helpless, unloved girl/boy, any show of power arouses incredible yearning in you. There is nothing wrong with this – we all project similar needs in our search for love.

Nor is there anything wrong with the bedazzled state of infatuation that you may have often sought. Each affair, real or imaginary, has a repeated message to offer you: “You are loved.”

It is the simplest of messages, but often the hardest to absorb. For spirit isn’t saying, “You are loved as long as your passion for this person lasts.” It is saying, “You are loved,” without any qualifications.

If you begin to gain insight and remove the obstacles that block your vision, spirit’s message will be awaiting you. There is infinite patience in spirit, infinite willingness to wait upon our attention. And one day, in your own time, you will notice.

I think that each wo/man you have loved is a tiny reminder of who you are. This isn’t solipsistic but a natural reflection of your needs. You aren’t judged by the love life you choose, since no one is outside yourself to judge – there is only you as the Self, looking at you from a different angle.

The Self looking at you is the primary relationship you bring into all situations. Realizing that, you will start to reduce expectations for other relationships. What do you really want from wo/men? Security, well-being, a sense of belonging? These are all available to you from your own Self, and your healing will be to fall in love with that Self.”

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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2:20AM PST on Mar 8, 2013

Thank you :)

9:55AM PDT on Apr 13, 2012

thanks for sharing.

2:16AM PDT on Apr 13, 2012

thanks for sharing

12:34PM PDT on Oct 28, 2011


7:21AM PDT on Jun 27, 2011

Only silly teenagers fall in love.

7:21AM PDT on Jun 27, 2011

Only silly teenagers fall in love.

12:53AM PDT on Jun 23, 2011

Thank you.

7:04AM PDT on Apr 16, 2010


6:20AM PST on Jan 7, 2010

Falling in love is nothing but feeling sexual desire. But that can be controlled, though.

9:23AM PST on Dec 11, 2009


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