Falling In Love

If you can begin to see how your notion of spirit has been shaped by your early childhood, you can start to look at love as a mirror of the present instead of the past.

The intense desirability of another person isn’t innate in that person. Desire is born in the one who desires. If your underlying self-image is that of a helpless, unloved girl/boy, any show of power arouses incredible yearning in you. There is nothing wrong with this – we all project similar needs in our search for love.

Nor is there anything wrong with the bedazzled state of infatuation that you may have often sought. Each affair, real or imaginary, has a repeated message to offer you: “You are loved.”

It is the simplest of messages, but often the hardest to absorb. For spirit isn’t saying, “You are loved as long as your passion for this person lasts.” It is saying, “You are loved,” without any qualifications.

If you begin to gain insight and remove the obstacles that block your vision, spirit’s message will be awaiting you. There is infinite patience in spirit, infinite willingness to wait upon our attention. And one day, in your own time, you will notice.

I think that each wo/man you have loved is a tiny reminder of who you are. This isn’t solipsistic but a natural reflection of your needs. You aren’t judged by the love life you choose, since no one is outside yourself to judge – there is only you as the Self, looking at you from a different angle.

The Self looking at you is the primary relationship you bring into all situations. Realizing that, you will start to reduce expectations for other relationships. What do you really want from wo/men? Security, well-being, a sense of belonging? These are all available to you from your own Self, and your healing will be to fall in love with that Self.”

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

17 comments

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen4 years ago

Thank you :)

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Samantha Shira
Samantha Shira5 years ago

thanks for sharing.

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Danuta Watola
Danuta W5 years ago

thanks for sharing

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Tim Cheung
Tim C6 years ago

thanks

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Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W6 years ago

Only silly teenagers fall in love.

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Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W6 years ago

Only silly teenagers fall in love.

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Robert O.
Robert O6 years ago

Thank you.

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Daniel Otero
Daniel Otero7 years ago

yeah

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Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W7 years ago

Falling in love is nothing but feeling sexual desire. But that can be controlled, though.

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Tanik Tri R
Tanik Tr8 years ago

True...

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