Female Ejaculation: Fact or Fiction?

Dr. Lissa Rankin answers medical questions based on her book What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend, which you can preorder here. If you have a question you’d like Dr. Lissa Rankin to answer in her blog, please join the What’s Up Down There posse in our Owning Pink community, or contact Owning Pink.

Q: My husband and I were making love the other night, and I was on top, trying to achieve a G-spot orgasm. (I saw a daytime talk show where a sex expert mentioned that some women find it incredible, so we thought we’d give it a go). Well, when I climaxed, my husband said he felt a rush of wetness. He said it actually added to his pleasure, but it worries me. Is this normal?

Yes. You’re perfectly normal. Chances are that you’ve just experienced the elusive and controversial female ejaculation some women experience during stimulation of the G spot, a silver dollar sized patch of tissue on the front wall of the vagina. Because of its location near the paraurethral ducts, which lie right around the urethra, G spot stimulation can make you feel like you need to pee. Usually, you can overcome this urge, especially if you empty your bladder before sex. However, in the release of orgasm, some women may leak urine, which is a perfectly normal response and nothing to worry about.

While many doctors ascribe to the notion that any fluid released during orgasm is urine, my patients have convinced me — and noted sex researcher Dr. Beverly Whipple, who famously named the G-spot agrees – that the fluid expelled by some women may be its own kind of ejaculate, something other than urine. Studies of female ejaculate show that the fluid released contains glucose, fructose, prostatic acid phosphatase, and PSA, substances not normally present in urine. According to Dr. Whipple, female ejaculate resembles fat-free milk, tastes sweet, and rarely exceeds a teaspoon in volume. Which means that if you’re soaking the bed with cups of fluid, you’re probably leaking urine.

Own It!

Either way, there’s no reason to feel embarrassed or ashamed. If you and your partner are enjoying it, let go, don’t worry, grab a towel, and surrender to the experience. If you’re so busy freaking out about urine (which is a normal, sterile body fluid, cleaner than any other sexual fluid), you’ll miss out on the whole point of orgasm – pleasure. If guys can squirt fluid when they climax and not feel self-conscious about it, so can you! If the fluid you release is a smaller amount, more akin to what a man releases during orgasm, you may indeed be one of the lucky ones who ejaculate.

If you don’t ejaculate, like most women, you’re perfectly normal too. (I can relate. I’ve never enjoyed this particular pleasure.) Sure, you can experiment with G-spot stimulation to see if you enjoy it and find out what happens. But don’t strive so hard to achieve some unattainable sexual goal that you forget to enjoy the ecstasy of the present moment. Each of our bodies is unique and perfect, just the way it is.

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Michele W.

8:51AM PDT on Aug 12, 2011

Thank you

send a green star

Camila K.

9:02PM PDT on Jun 20, 2011

OK, now that we have achieved the ejaculations, what about OBE's from sex?

Just kidding. We should stop expectations and disappointments, and focus on MAKING LOVE with our beloved partners, really really loving them, body and soul---you can't fail with that goal.

Ani B.

11:50AM PDT on Jun 17, 2011

Good information, thank you :)

Sharon R.

5:44PM PST on Jan 30, 2011

Interesting article. Thanks for the information

Cherie P.

10:10PM PST on Jan 29, 2011

I Know that women Do ejuclate, because I am one of the lucky ones, or I should say my Husband is! During hot sex I will cream on the shaft of his penis. You can literally see it and taste it. Very sweet, My husband Loves when he can get nme that aroused! ;)

10:39AM PST on Jan 11, 2011

Hey hey... all women can ejaculate, thats my experience from having alot of sex with alot of women. couse i enjoy pleasuring women so if ya not screaming up a orgasm then your male patner is not doing a great job. try pleasuring your self for a while, learn about your self and you'll see that you can ejaculate. peace.

Mari '.

5:38AM PDT on Sep 21, 2010

hahaha Sexism alive still:0 Sexism does not exist in Nature only inside the minds of humans. We are so connected in reality but yet so far apart because we have been raised with minds closed.

Julia W.

7:50PM PDT on Aug 12, 2010

Okay. And how do you make it STOP? I hate it! It's gross! I'm allowed to feel that way and I want a way to make it stop happening!

Philippa P.

5:51PM PDT on Aug 8, 2010

Thanks.

Liv R.

12:00AM PDT on Jul 20, 2010

Whoe!! Datz intresting