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Q: My husband and I were making love the other night, and I was on top, trying to achieve a G-spot orgasm. (I saw a daytime talk show where a sex expert mentioned that some women find it incredible, so we thought weíd give it a go). Well, when I climaxed, my husband said he felt a rush of wetness. He said it actually added to his pleasure, but it worries me. Is this normal?
Yes. Youíre perfectly normal. Chances are that youíve just experienced the elusive and controversial female ejaculation some women experience during stimulation of the G spot, a silver dollar sized patch of tissue on the front wall of the vagina. Because of its location near the paraurethral ducts, which lie right around the urethra, G spot stimulation can make you feel like you need to pee. Usually, you can overcome this urge, especially if you empty your bladder before sex. However, in the release of orgasm, some women may leak urine, which is a perfectly normal response and nothing to worry about.
While many doctors ascribe to the notion that any fluid released during orgasm is urine, my patients have convinced me — and noted sex researcher Dr. Beverly Whipple, who famously named the G-spot agrees –† that the fluid expelled by some women may be its own kind of ejaculate, something other than urine.† Studies of female ejaculate show that the fluid released contains glucose, fructose, prostatic acid phosphatase, and PSA, substances not normally present in urine. According to Dr. Whipple, female ejaculate resembles fat-free milk, tastes sweet, and rarely exceeds a teaspoon in volume. Which means that if youíre soaking the bed with cups of fluid, youíre probably leaking urine.
Either way, thereís no reason to feel embarrassed or ashamed. If you and your partner are enjoying it, let go, donít worry, grab a towel, and surrender to the experience. If youíre so busy freaking out about urine (which is a normal, sterile body fluid, cleaner than any other sexual fluid), youíll miss out on the whole point of orgasm – pleasure.† If guys can squirt fluid when they climax and not feel self-conscious about it, so can you! If the fluid you release is a smaller amount, more akin to what a man releases during orgasm, you may indeed be one of the lucky ones who ejaculate.
If you donít ejaculate, like most women, youíre perfectly normal too. (I can relate. Iíve never enjoyed this particular pleasure.) Sure, you can experiment with G-spot stimulation to see if you enjoy it and find out what happens. But donít strive so hard to achieve some unattainable sexual goal that you forget to enjoy the ecstasy of the present moment. Each of our bodies is unique and perfect, just the way it is.