Feminism Is Irrelevant (To Me)
By Dana Theus
Iíve really gotten into†womenís issues lately†but in the process Iíve realized Iím not a feminist. Iím not sure I ever was, but now Iím sure Iím not! Iím a†Feminista! There have been various ďwavesĒ of†feminism , which make distinctions in the category of ďpromote women over (blank).” The blank could be men, the system, everything elseÖ it doesnít matter. To me it all says,†give us rights and opportunities because weíre women, we have great things to offer and you need us.
I totally own my femininity and my gender. The older I get the more I come to understand what women are capable of Ė because of our gender. We are amazing, strong, fearless, tender, loving, sexy, vulnerable, intuitive, discerning, beautiful, hard-working, soft, nurturing, kick-ass creatures Ė in ways men can never be (though I love their manly stuff too). To me, all this and more makes us awesomely powerful in the world.
Women Are Powerful?
I recently had the chance to review some research conducted by†Jane Purdue and†Anne Perschel about women and Power. Iíll be writing more about that in the future, but here was the stat that struck me:†in the 100ís of professional women they interviewed and surveyed, 89 percent indicated a passive stance regarding how they expected to gain power in their organization (read, in their world). The representative statement was, ďIíll have power when my boss gives it to me.Ē
89 percent of us are waiting around for someone to give us the opportunity to be powerful? Seriously?
I know this stat is true because for the early part of my career, it was true for me, until I packed up my bags in corporate America and became an Entrepreneur. As an entrepreneur Ė and a solopreneur in particular – itís tough to survive, and impossible to thrive, without tapping into your own, personal power. What is this personal power? Read about it†here. Iíll tell you one thing itís not, your personal power isnít something you take from other people. Itís something only you can bring through to the world.
Feminism Is Part of What We Allow To Sap Our Power
Iíve come to think that Feminism and the rant to be†given power is actually perpetuating this passive stance. I donít think itís ill-spirited. In fact, I think the first few waves of Feminism have succeeded in creating opportunity that, according to the stat above, many of us are sitting around waiting to take advantage of. Iím not waiting; Iím certainly not wasting my power on ranting against the system (unless itís pinpointed to create a specific change I can influence) and I have no energy for a woman who is bursting with potential but who insists on hiding it. By contrast, for those women who ARE ready to step into their personal power and stop hiding it,†I have all the energy in the world.
Potential is useless unless we realize it, ladies.
I donít believe in promoting women because they have female potential, I believe in championing women because of what we do with it in the world. Even if you have potential, for you and others to understand it, youíve got to get out and use it. Just start and see what happens.
Our world is broken and breaking. It needs us desperately.
What are YOU waiting for? Have you stepped into power only to realize youíre still hiding some of it? What will it take for you to stop waiting and start being in your power? Are you ready? How are you claiming your power TODAY?
Dana†Theus – Founder,†InPower Leadership Development & Coaching
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