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Finding Confidence Through Friendship

Finding Confidence Through Friendship

Finding people who listen and care about you is key to finding true confidence. Although self-love ultimately comes from within, outside confirmation that you are loved reinforces that process — and sometimes it even starts it.

Although I believe that you should be your own best friend, one of the most beautiful gifts in life is that of friendship. It’s amazing how a friendship can be a catalyst to growth, change, and acceptance. It’s amazing how the love of a true friend can make life seem that much greater, better, and fuller.

I’m in awe at how a friendship can grow and develop over time. It’s like how a little sunshine and nourishment can make a tiny seed into a wondrously beautiful plant. Isn’t it funny how a seemingly random encounter can eventually develop into a strong bond that grounds you and helps to sustain you?

Great friends are like sanctuaries from life’s storms. A friend can get you to laugh when you really want to cry. A friend can offer you advice, looking out for your blind spot. A friend can offer you support, embracing you when you don’t have the strength to embrace yourself. A friend can accept you, with all your weird quirks and tell you they wouldn’t have it any other way.

And the best thing about friendship is that it’s give-and-take. The only payback required after a friend helps you through a tough situation is to be there when they encounter their own. And with a true friend, it’s not a nuisance, but an honor. To have the opportunity to give love the way you’ve received it is incredibly fulfilling and healing.


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Erika Oglesby

Erika Oglesby is a freelance writer and wandering nomad currently located in Grand Rapids, MI. She is dedicated to helping people better their lives through self-knowledge and alternative therapies -- especially women of color and women diagnosed with autoimmune diseases. Visit her website at


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11:26AM PST on Nov 19, 2012

Great article!

11:18AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

Yeah, sticky and sweet and fluffy and lovely and all that, but lets face it. In today's world finding someone that is this attentive and loving is like a lottery that is never won. Add to that the fact that most men do not look at it as this frilly ... I'm a guy and would love the genuine friendship that is spoken here. Simply does not exist..

9:32AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

The difficult part is finding these types of friends! You might have had them, and then they move, get married or have children, and then you lose them...Also, finding people that are willing to be 'deep' and truthful are not an easy commodity either. Finally, when you do not have any stable or supportive family, friends become even more important and the loss of them due to the issues mentioned above hurts greatly!

8:14AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

Thank God for good friends!! My best friend is my sister,although she is 16 years younger than me, the age gap did not matter. We have been together through both our ups and downs in our lives.. I feel badly for sisters who are in discord.So, if this is you, please heal your relationship now.Do not feel that something she said or did that you cannot forgive her for stop you.We did this many times (as sisters do), but said "I'm sorry", then moved forward. Friends may come and go, but sisters are forever.

6:56AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012


6:47AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

Friends are a lifeline you give yourself.

6:44AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

Thanks for sharing.

5:09AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

Fine advice. Myself, I just had dinner with a friend last night for his birthday, even though he lives an hour away, it was raining, and I'm going on a huge trip tonight, and needed to pack. It's just what you need to do for friends.

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