In an increasingly unpredictable world, anxiety and insecurity abound. Where can we find peace in the midst of modern life? The answer is simple: within ourselves. Here are four ways to do this in your life…
1. Get present
When you find yourself in the midst of a worrying situation, stop. Go inwards, and ask yourself “what is wrong in this moment?” usually, nothing is wrong right now. It is when we stray off into past regrets and future concerns that anxiety kicks in. Don’t deny the problems you are facing, but don’t get lost in them either: being present will bring you greater alertness and inner security, allowing you to face challenges more objectively and with greater calm.
2. Laugh at yourself
When you realise you are obsessing with a concern or worry, laugh at yourself. Just look up at the sky and think, “Oh! I’m doing it again!” When you don’t take yourself so seriously, you immediately disarm the worry and anxiety of the intellect. This will help you take stock of the situation and reassess things more clearly.
3. Go with the Flow
As adults, we have lost the ability to flow. We cling to the idea of what we want, and fight against the current of life, because we think that what we want is what is going to make us happy, but that’s not the truth. Our happiness depends upon the choices we make in each moment. Am I choosing to be happy, or am I fighting for what I want? Am I attached to an idea or am I willing to flow?
4. Take responsibility for your own happiness
If only he wasn’t so … then I could be happy! Sound familiar? We are so dependent on the behaviour of those around us, that whenever they aren’t the way we want them to be, we suffer. If your happiness depends on other people, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. People change all the time, and things are never exactly how we expect. Stop trying to change others so that you can be happy. Instead, focus on praising and appreciating the people around you.
Isha Judd is an internationally renowned spiritual teacher and author; her latest book and movie, Why Walk When You Can Fly? explain her system for self-love and the expansion of consciousness. Learn more at www.whywalkwhenyoucanfly.com.