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Forget ‘Not Enough’ Or ‘Too Much’

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Forget ‘Not Enough’ Or ‘Too Much’

All you have to do is turn on the television, check out a magazine, or log onto the internet to realize that the media is blasting us with the message that we’re somehow “not enough.”

Coming at us from all sides are messages that we’re not pretty enough, smart enough, rich enough, popular enough, skinny enough, successful enough, healthy enough - whatever enough.

But then if you step it up a notch – really pump up the volume – you get the opposite message. “No! Now you’ve gone off and overdone it! Now you’re ‘too much.’ You should be less intense, less honest, less sexy, less smart, less complicated, less personal, less talented, less ambitious, less dramatic, less emotional, less fierce.

Where Should You Be On The Dial?

The message being sent is that somewhere between “not enough” and “too much” is a perfect setting on the dial that every one of us should emulate – maybe a perfect 7 or something.

Well, I’m here to tell you that’s total bullshit.

Here’s the real truth. If life is a dial from 1 to 10, some days you’ll be a 1. Others you’ll be an off-the-charts 11.

And that’s just perfect.

I Am Not Enough

I know how it feels to be on both ends of the spectrum. I feel pretty good about myself when I’m doing what I do best. But when I stray out of my narrow zone of genius (into, for example, the scary, nausea-inducing world of internet marketing or the even-scarier challenge of making any extension of my hand – like a tennis racket or golf club – hit a ball), I instantly feel like I’m lacking. Even when I’m pinching myself, living in the world I always dreamed of being in, like when I spoke at the Hay House Ignite conference and was surrounded by beautiful, famous, talented visionaries, I found myself numbly stirring my Perrier, wondering why I was the only one at the private cocktail party not talking to Louise Hay or Wayne Dyer or surrounded by a crowd of gushing authors. Was I not interesting enough? Not popular enough? Not pretty enough?

No matter how much I become, I always have moments of self-doubt and insecurity, during which I second guess my value in the world.

I can listen to my Inner Pilot Light, who is my biggest cheerleader and who is absolutely certain I have value in this world just because I’m a spirit in a body who’s connected to All That Is and that’s exactly enough.

But in the stray moments when I’m not listening to the wisdom of my soul, I’m going to be a 1 on the dial and feel “not enough,” and that’s just how it rolls.

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.  She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.  Lissa blogs at and also created two online communities - and She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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9:54AM PDT on Apr 10, 2014

We ARE enough :) Thanks for sharing.

11:19PM PDT on May 10, 2012

God loves us whether we are a zero or a 10. He just wants us to trust him more. The worst thing we can do is compare ourselves with others. we all have our strengths and weaknesses in different areas.I will never be a Tiger Woods on the golf course but in the medical research lab I'd probably leave him way behind.

3:48PM PDT on May 10, 2012

Why buckle under societal standards- whether you are or are not good enough?
Isn't it simpler to be just who you are, not trying to measure up to amnyone - what do you care? Or ask the other question- do they really care after you are out of the room, there wilkl always be someone else to judge.

11:42AM PDT on May 10, 2012

For most of my life, I've felt not enough and when I wanted to stretch out to be enough, allowed others to stop me. Right now I'm in a situation where I feel constantly belittled and until I can find my way out of it, the not enough will triumph. The good thing is that I've realised it; now, I've just got to do something about it.

10:51AM PDT on May 10, 2012

"Well, I’m here to tell you that’s total bullshit."

And I'm here to tell you that you are 100% correct. It's high time we all listened to our OWN inner gut feelings because they never steer us wrong. We were all born with an innate ability to know what is right and we don't NEED to listen to OTHER peoples' visions of reality.
The "media" and all "religious cults" are blasting us constantly because they are SELLING something we don't NEED for MONEY. They tell us we "aren't good enough" and we're "filthy
sinners" so we will BUY THEIR BULLSHIT. Brainwashing by the "media", "society" and "religious cults" is the CAUSE of those moments of self-doubt and insecurity. We have to fight these snake oil salesmen every day of our lives because we "ARE good enough" and we
AREN'T filthy sinners. How many of us have raped anybody, killed anybody, stolen 1.6 million from AIG like Newt Gingrich, started a bloody war that horribly killed millions, lusted for their neighbor's WIFE? Aren't we DOING THE BEST WE CAN in this HORRIBLY COMPETITIVE SOCIETY? How is it that MARTHA STEWART went to jail and NEWT GINGRICH STOLE 1.6 MILLION FROM the AMERICAN PEOPLE WITH INSIDER TRADING
and HE GOT TO RUN FOR PRESIDENT?????? What's the moral of THIS story?

10:22AM PDT on May 10, 2012

I feel the same going to the doctor when I was 30 and younger they would say "Don't worry about it your young" and magically overnight "Well, at your age....."

8:27AM PDT on May 10, 2012

tough being a perfectionist! :-(

2:26AM PDT on May 10, 2012


11:14AM PDT on May 9, 2012


10:48AM PDT on May 9, 2012

Self improvement is good, when I do not strve for improvement I am limited to nothing new.

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