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Everyone struggles with their self-esteem from time to time (some of us more than others). Self-confidence, like any struggle, can be a daily battle.

There are many tools that you can use to build your self-esteem over time and one of the most powerful is positive self-talk. Learning to be kind to yourself through your thoughts can have a huge impact on how you feel and it could be the difference between a good day and a bad one.

But let’s be honest: there are some days when positive self-talk just doesn’t cut it. Maybe you “woke up on the wrong side of the bed” or you just feel off. Those are the days when your inner perception overshadows your outer reality. Those are the days when “positive self talk” can feel ridiculous and the mere thought of saying nice things to yourself seems impossible.

Instead of getting stuck in your self-defeating thoughts, get an instant self-esteem boost.  How? Give a genuine compliment to someone else.

That might seem counter-intuitive (and a little cheesy); after all, you want to feel good about yourself. But getting feedback from other people after you’ve begged them for validation will only feel artificial and forced. Instead, get outside of your negativity bubble by appreciating the people around you.

A genuine compliment has the power to make someone else’s day.  In turn, it feels great to positively impact someone else. It’s not about having the other person reciprocate or being seen as a “nice” person. Rather, it’s about shifting your focus and energy to something more productive than tearing yourself down. Complimenting someone else will serve not only as a distraction, but it adds just a little more positivity into the world — and that’s something you can feel good about.


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Erika Oglesby

Erika Oglesby is a freelance writer and wandering nomad currently located in Grand Rapids, MI. She is dedicated to helping people better their lives through self-knowledge and alternative therapies -- especially women of color and women diagnosed with autoimmune diseases. Visit her website at


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12:27PM PDT on Sep 3, 2014

Truth as it is) Thanks for sharing :)

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2:21AM PDT on Aug 16, 2012

Interesting, thanks for the info!

1:21AM PDT on Aug 16, 2012


4:00PM PDT on May 6, 2012

have tried this.

9:08AM PST on Mar 9, 2012

Great advice!

11:37PM PST on Mar 3, 2012

Good simple suggestion... I like that

12:03AM PST on Feb 26, 2012

this was my day today i struggled all day and even my workmates told me to put a smile on my face. Giving someone a compliment is an interesting theory to get over ourselfs

2:27PM PST on Feb 25, 2012


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