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Getting Good At Goodbye

Getting Good At Goodbye

I used to think I sucked at goodbyes because I wept and carried on like a child. Then, I remembered that when I was a little girl, I used to pick fights with my friends before we moved away so I wouldn’t have to say goodbye. (It was the way I learned to cope with the Air Force life.) I didn’t have the courage, or perhaps coping mechanisms, to feel what leaving again and again made me feel. I turned away from it all in order to survive.

I know that avoiding was what I needed to do then, but I’m stronger now. Instead of fleeing, I hug and weep and wish our time together wasn’t yet over. Now, I say goodbye. It hurts. My chest aches and my throat tightens. My ego is excruciatingly exposed as the tears pour down my face. These are the tears of hundreds of resisted goodbyes. They are heavy and relentless. They are rarely convenient but they are, above all else, my truth.

Today, I choose to see these tears as a sign that I am in my body, feeling what needs to be felt, and embracing all of the parts of me who still needs to grieve. This is self-love. This is self-respect. This is personal evolution. And in this moment, I am grateful to be exactly this one.

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Christy Diane Farr

Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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3:01AM PDT on Jul 15, 2013

Thanks for posting.

11:34AM PST on Feb 17, 2013

Thanks for sharing! There are a lot of who don't like goodbyes. .

1:09PM PST on Feb 6, 2013

Lovely words.

3:30PM PST on Feb 1, 2013

Dear lady I am glad you've given yourself permission to feel. Not always fun, but important truth.

11:37AM PST on Jan 28, 2013

Thank you for sharing...

5:46AM PST on Jan 28, 2013

thank you

1:21AM PST on Jan 28, 2013

I hate goodbyes, but they're a part (one of the biggest parts) of life. Thanks Christy.

1:16AM PST on Jan 28, 2013


9:39PM PST on Jan 27, 2013

i hate goodbyes! i'm very emotional too. hard to say "goodbye" without getting choked up.

8:10PM PST on Jan 27, 2013

Nothing cumes eazy!

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