I tell you, killing my TV was like taking a dear desire and sending it on a rocket ship to Mars, never to be seen again. I love my reality shows, fashion programs, creative home and garden. I love my TV. My husband doesn’t. And the monthly cable bill wasnít doing us any favors. So with much resistance (clawing and pawing and pouting), I let it go.
The result? Sweet surprise. Quality of life. Memory making. Play.
Last night, I looked around the living room. Music was playing. There was a fire in the fireplace. It was warm. The kids had built two forts and were tearing around the room. Yelping and jumping and having a blast. This was peaceful! It was fulfilling because I understood that this was the kind of night they will remember. It fed their heart in a way that no amount of movie watching and favorite TV shows ever could. Giving up the TV was high on my discomfort list. But there was a gem inside of the surrender I hadn’t known was there. There’s a theme here. Out of necessity, a friend of mine made a new budget with her husband. She was terrified to have to give up her daily Starbucks four-shot espresso fancy drinks, since she took such comfort in them. She hemmed and hawed, and finally gave them up. But in the end, it really helped her. She looks more quiet and peaceful these days.
There seems to be a deep, natural benefit to giving up the things we have come to crave. Our lives are being incrementally altered to recognize and redefine the quality in them. Maybe the triumph in giving up a spendy craving is a personal one. Give yourself the opportunity to recognize it. And to be surprised by the gem that lies on the other side.
Living without is uncomfortable. Even the prospect is unpalatable. But for me, if I haven’t yet said a 100 percent no to cutting that thing out, then it means there is a place to grow. Discomfort makes us creative and open to new experiences of fulfillment. If you give something up and it impacts your life in negative ways, find a way to bring it back, but in moderation. Try your life without it, at least for a little while, and see if fulfillment isnít deeper, richer and sweeter than you thought.
By Erin Lozano, Intent.com