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Gratefully Saying Yes: CONTEST

Gratefully Saying Yes: CONTEST

One regret dear world, that I am determined not to have when I am lying on my deathbed is that I did not kiss you enough. –Hafiz of Persia

Gratitude is actually the most basic and simple of all positive practices, but most of us want to complicate the simple, we just can’t believe it is that simple. A recent revelation in my summer of gratitude demonstrated this clearly. It seems so basic as to be ridiculous, but really is a culmination of all the listening and letting go that helped me to this place- so here it is,  just start your day knowing that all you have to do that day is enjoy it.  Act as if it is the last day you have to do whatever you do, love whoever you love and just enjoy it. I know it sounds ridiculously simple, but like I said,  we want to complicate the simple.

Said differently but with the same intent, Eric Schmidt, Founder and Chairman of Google was quoted, “Find a way to say yes to things. Say yes to invitations to a new country, say yes to meet new friends, say yes to learn something new.  Yes is how you get your first job, and your next job and your spouse and even your kids.   Even if it feels a bit edgy, a bit out of your comfort zone, saying yes means that you will do something new, meet someone new and make a difference.  Yes lets you stand out in the crowd, be the optimist, see the glass half full, be the one that everyone comes to. Yes keeps us all young.”

Not surprising from a guy who has reinvented how we find and organize the world in ways that no one could have imagined even ten years ago. This is what I am always thinking of about love.  How can I understand love in a way that is new and vital and deep enough in me that I can transform the way other people think about it.   How can I say yes to what is in me and love myself enough to put it out there.

The other day as I was perusing the shelves of our local Borders going out of business sale and I witnessed the dozens, maybe hundreds of other books written about all the same topics that fascinate me, I thought to myself, why am I so intent on adding one more voice. First I found some other author’s names that I wanted to get to know and interview and then I got a little discouraged.

But as I muddled around with the weight of this, I realize that the work is the gift I give myself.   Anything we do with love, whether it be plumbing,  selling, managing, writing, care-taking, done with love actually offers a transmission of goodness that changes us.   Then it multiples in everyone it touches.

Enter your story of gratitude in the SUMMER OF GRATITUDE CONTEST to win a basket of sustainable love products from Good Clean Love.

Read the stories of last week’s winners here: Gratitude Pays in Pleasure: Contest Winners

Saying yes to life, just deciding when you star the day that success just means enjoying it will lead you and surprise you.  Today, I was surprised to learn that someone not only nominated this Positivity quest blog as the best happiness writing online in the Intent contest, and it is actually in the lead.   Thank you for participating in this cycle of love and goodness.



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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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4:50AM PST on Jan 8, 2013

Let's all try not to be over-critical

4:02AM PDT on Aug 8, 2011

thanks for sharing. YES !!!!!

10:48AM PDT on Aug 3, 2011

Yes is a good word to use wisely.

7:55AM PDT on Aug 2, 2011

I love reading all comments, I'm very poor in writing English.

12:58AM PDT on Aug 2, 2011

It is part of my 12 Step program to say Thank You at night before I sleep. I say thank you for those people who are in my life, and I say thank you for the time I had with those people I've lost. I say a big Thank You for my sobriety, without which my life would once again be meaningless, very dark, and confusing. Because my higher power has helped me get and stay sober for years now, I always have something to be grateful for at the end of the day. Then, I try to think of other things to be grateful about. That's pretty easy - my cat! my apartment, my car, my computer! And Wilfred the talking dog! lolz!

On a practical note, I also find that when I'm bothered by something or someone, when things aren't going my way, or I feel angry/upset, if I take a minute to consider what I feel grateful for - those problems diminish instantly! I'm disabled and so sometimes it isn't easy to find something to feel grateful about when I have a rough day - but there is always the fact that my 12-Step program introduced me to my Higher Power, and a new way of life that's vastly rewarding, so I'm grateful for that on a daily basis. So as we like to say, there is no problem so bad that drinking won't make it worse! And I don't have to drink anymore, so THANK YOU!

12:36PM PDT on Aug 1, 2011

My daily gratitude practice includes mindfulness of all and everyone involved in the simplest of my activities. Bread becomes a grateful mantra to the baker, the delivery person(s), the store or market and all their staff, the processors, the farmers, and countless more. That awareness transcends the mundane to make the ordinary so incredibly extraordinary that I am perpetually grateful for so many and so much!

8:13AM PDT on Aug 1, 2011

I am grateful everyday for the breatg I breath, and the people I love. I have cancer, and I could be a bitter bitch about it, but that would be a waste of MY life. I believe in the "Pay it forward" theory. Live life to the fullest, give what you can, and always be friendly. It could/will change someones day.

5:18AM PDT on Aug 1, 2011

Good article BUT DONT say yes to everything.....

4:44AM PDT on Aug 1, 2011

INtersting ... because i say yes was too much, and i am trying to say no more, so that i do not exhaust myself or drive myself crazy..... there is such a thing as too much, anything.

11:32PM PDT on Jul 31, 2011

Thank you!:)

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