For so many of us, there is a pervasive feeling that something is missing–that no matter what we have, it is never quite enough. Although our work lives are increasingly frenetic, underneath all the activity we may actually feel poor, or as if we have not succeeded. And our cultural greed is a gross manifestation of the scarcity principle–one that keeps far too many of us chained to work we dislike out of fear we won’t have enough.
But there is a way to break the cycle of not-enough and embrace being rooted in acceptance. Read what this great teacher has to say and begin to live in a more relaxed and abundant way:
We need to understand abundance as genuine self-acceptance and recognize its fundamental relationship to the quality of trust.
To truly accept what you have–your gifts, your experiences, and your chronic shortcomings–is no simple matter.
To be abundant is to accept the validity of your destiny, no matter how seemingly small or insignificant. Such an embrace of your uniqueness generates a presence that flows out over your heredity and environment and creates unforeseen opportunity. Whoever we may be, there is material to work with, material that will yield its form in proportion to our attentiveness and care.
No one can take your place in the universe.
Abundance is, above all, the belief–and even more importantly, the feeling–that one is loved. When we feel loved by life itself, we begin to feel that there will always be a place for us in the world.
Affirming abundance is not holding mindless cosmic optimism. Perhaps it would be better to rename abundance regenerative trust. The trusting person senses that what is needed is available. There is no need to hoard or take more than one’s share at a particular time. Cosmic optimists and success cults that do not respect the cycles of nature find themselves frozen in cycles of denial.
When there is trust and self-acceptance, mutuality can come into being. In scarcity, we either crave others to fulfill our own needs or are afraid of being controlled. Abundance makes room for the other. As a culture, we haven become victimized by the loveless pose of the expert; with each ounce of power given away, we lose trust in ourselves, in our fundamental goodness, and in our ability to cooperate with others for mutual growth and benefit.
Genuine self-acceptance translates into self-respect, which then becomes self-reliance. To contact the spark of your abundance, you might ask yourself, “What nourishes me? What sustains me?” Then list all the things that come to mind, everything from food to friendship to manifestations of more subtle energies. As you consciously recognize these things and begin to own them, you familiarize yourself with your prime territory, the place where your abundance is found. This is where lies the strengths that you have to share with the world.
Adapted from Creating the Work You Love, by Rick Jarow (Inner Traditions, 1995). Copyright (c) 1995 by Rick Jarow. Reprinted by permission of Inner Traditions.
Adapted from Creating the Work You Love, by Rick Jarow (Inner Traditions, 1995).