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Have You Resolved Struggle Vs Surrender?

Have You Resolved Struggle Vs Surrender?

Spirit never acts in a fixed way. In general, to hear that someone you love needs you does result in fulfilling the need. There are certain loving instincts that come naturally when you are in touch with spirit:

You don’t oppose. You put feelings over results. You want to help. Service gives rise to feelings of joy. You put another’s wishes on the same plane as your own.

These instincts develop and mature through surrender over the years. But if you go back again to the experience of falling in love, you will see that these aren’t learned responses. Love already contains them. Love automatically means release from ego conflict and struggle.

A single experience of falling in love isn’t a complete release, since struggle inevitably returns, but lovers get at least a glimpse of the Way. Whether they can articulate it or not, this is what they discover:

It takes no effort to love. The state of being has its own innate joy. Questions answer themselves if you are aware enough. Life is safe. Flowing with the current of being is the simplest way to live. Resistance never really succeeds. Controlling the flow of life is impossible.

These are the realizations that bring a person out of struggle. Struggle is born of the ego’s isolation; it ends when you can find the Way and surrender to its guiding force.

Since one of man’s most prized qualities is his ability to struggle against diversity, a life of nonstruggle falls far outside our current worldview. Yet to come from love obviously cannot be a struggle. How are the two reconciled?

The answer lies in free will. Humans can choose to end the struggle and come from love–every day this possibility is precisely what you face in your relationships.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).
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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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11:16AM PST on Jan 14, 2013


3:49AM PST on Jan 14, 2013

The problem with human relationships is that the majority are based on conditional love such as I love you because your got red hair or you do what i tell you and so on. If people practiced unconditional love towards each other they would accept things as just is and not be attached to outcomes in others but accept them for who they are and just learn from the experiences, what they have to fix/forgive in themselves. Its simple but i see many people have difficulties with the basics that require them to love themselves unconditionally and think for themselves.

2:21AM PST on Jan 10, 2013


8:33AM PST on Jan 7, 2013

worth pondering

6:35PM PST on Jan 6, 2013

Love is known best by the blind, for it is meant to be known by the heart, not by the eyes.

6:09PM PST on Jan 6, 2013

...............surrender.................vs. surrener.

6:09PM PST on Jan 6, 2013

I believe people "surrener" far too easily and too often. It is the simplest path of least resistance. You can put whatever spiritual spin on it you want. I see "quitter", when its not going well like you would like it to be. The real talent is to know when and what to quit and what is worth sticking it out. Your education should never be "surrendered".

2:50PM PST on Jan 6, 2013

Thank you

11:41AM PST on Jan 6, 2013

thank you

7:50PM PST on Jan 5, 2013

I'm currently learning this gift from a beautiful man that has entered my life!

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