Spirit never acts in a fixed way. In general, to hear that someone you love needs you does result in fulfilling the need. There are certain loving instincts that come naturally when you are in touch with spirit:
You don’t oppose. You put feelings over results. You want to help. Service gives rise to feelings of joy. You put another’s wishes on the same plane as your own.
These instincts develop and mature through surrender over the years. But if you go back again to the experience of falling in love, you will see that these aren’t learned responses. Love already contains them. Love automatically means release from ego conflict and struggle.
A single experience of falling in love isn’t a complete release, since struggle inevitably returns, but lovers get at least a glimpse of the Way. Whether they can articulate it or not, this is what they discover:
It takes no effort to love. The state of being has its own innate joy. Questions answer themselves if you are aware enough. Life is safe. Flowing with the current of being is the simplest way to live. Resistance never really succeeds. Controlling the flow of life is impossible.
These are the realizations that bring a person out of struggle. Struggle is born of the ego’s isolation; it ends when you can find the Way and surrender to its guiding force.
Since one of man’s most prized qualities is his ability to struggle against diversity, a life of nonstruggle falls far outside our current worldview. Yet to come from love obviously cannot be a struggle. How are the two reconciled?
The answer lies in free will. Humans can choose to end the struggle and come from love–every day this possibility is precisely what you face in your relationships.
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).
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