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Healing Through Touch

Healing Through Touch

I have written more than 120 articles about touch but have just recently learned its powerful healing effect firsthand.† The last several days,† I have been wracked with a painful pinched nerve in my upper back that has exhausted me. My best healing practices havenít been working and the amount of energy that managing the pain has taken up has left me bereft. Last night, even sleep evaded me. The only thing that has provided any relief at all has been the warmth and pressure of my husbandís healing hands.

I have more memories than I can count of holding my children through the night and knowing that I was healing them. Even in their teen years, my bed is standard treatment when they are ill or overcome with emotion. However, in all these years, I have rarely reached out for the same treatment. Last night something changed; I was able to ask for the care that I have always been so good at giving but have never risked receiving. I woke my husband, curled into his touch and was finally able to rest.

Babies do not thrive without human touch. Mothers everywhere know this intuitively. More and more† medical studies are confirming our intuition- everything from fibromyalgia to Alzheimers improves with the addition of human touch.†† Our attention transmitted through our miraculous human hands is the most powerful healing tool on the planet. Even our ability to learn and pay attention are improved when we are touched even briefly. Touch is the universal human language that transforms and heals us.

Physical contact awakens the prefrontal areas of the brain that control our abilities to relax and emote. Being held at any age creates a visceral imprint of trust, which the brain hears more clearly than any verbal message of support.†† Touching† is the language that we all crave most. There may not be a more relaxed moment than in the safety of a warm hug or the contact of hands on oneís aching back.

Initiating family hugs every day will transform the intimacy in your home. If you donít believe it, spend the next few days consciously aware of how many times you are touched throughout the day and how many times you reach out to touch someone else. Notice how even the smallest of physical exchanges impacts how you feel in the moment and with the person you connected with. I envy the European culturesí ease in leaning forward and brushing cheeks with almost anyone they meet. Becoming more fluent in the language of touch is the key to our healing.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.† In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,† she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative advice.†It has been called "the essential guide for relationships." †The book is available on ebook.† Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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4:51AM PDT on Jul 13, 2012

I have been raped. Yes, sometimes touch is very traumatic depending on what level the touch is delivered.

Now having said that, I cant live without touch. I must hug or be hugged, I must hold hands, I dont just shake one handed all the time, if I am genuinely interested in this person I shake with one hand while covering our hands with the other.

Healing ? I think so, I haven't had the problems I used to have with PTSD since I have been able to touch. I am more often likely to greet with a hug than I am with a nod.

3:44PM PDT on Jul 9, 2012

thanks for sharing

8:01AM PDT on Jul 7, 2012


7:21PM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

A favorite memory: my kids lined up in back of me, each one massaging the shoulders of the person in front. Yeah!

7:21AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012


8:52PM PDT on Jul 2, 2012

Sadly for some touching can be interrupted as a threat as they have experienced sexual abuse or trauma

5:05AM PDT on Jul 2, 2012

Having my shoulders massaged after a hard day's work, made all the difference in relieving the pain.

11:57PM PDT on Jul 1, 2012

I'd give just about anything to be able to afford a massage once a week. Touch is essential for our well being.

6:27PM PDT on Jul 1, 2012

Thanks for the article!

5:26PM PDT on Jul 1, 2012


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