8. Comment: “Don’t feel guilty about…”
Caregiver response: “It may seem irrational to you, but part of the reason I feel guilty is that I desperately want to fix what’s wrong in my loved one’s life. I know I can’t fix everything, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to.” (See explanation for number 4)
9. Comment: “Let’s not talk about that. Let’s talk about something happy and fun.”
Caregiver response: “I really need to talk to someone about this. Do you mind if we discuss it first—and then go and do something fun?” Laverty says that caregivers need to do a better job of letting their friends and family know that sometimes they need to talk about the difficult things.
10. Comment: “You must be so relieved that it’s over.”
Caregiver response: “Yes, I am,” or “No, I’m not.” You’re allowed to (and probably should) be honest, according to Laverty. And you don’t have to justify them to anyone.
11. Comment: “When are you going to get over it (a senior’s death) and move on?”
Caregiver response: “Caring for my loved one has been my whole world for the past (insert time). I am going to need some time and space to figure out where my life goes from here.”
How A Caregiver Can Respond to Insensitive Comments originally appeared on AgingCare.com..