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How to Embrace Your Imperfection

How to Embrace Your Imperfection

Recently I offered several workshops focusing on self-compassion. I began each one by saying, “This weekend is a project in non-self-improvement.”

This statement was often followed by laughter and then a slow realization that gradually revealed a premise that nearly every one of us carries: We must always be improving, forever trying to make ourselves better, thinner, more spiritual; in a word, perfect.

For many of us, it is our primary motivating concern. Hidden under this pressure is a belief that says, “Unless I improve, make myself better, bordering on perfect, I will continue to live outside the circle of welcome and approval.”

This anxiety haunts many of us. We spend a lifetime trying to get it right. We become obsessed with growth and progress, trying to muscle our way into acceptability. This leaves little room for those parts of us that do not fit the image we are trying to show the world. The weak, needy, inadequate, fearful and sorrowful parts are often abandoned, discarded and left in the shadows.

Without them, however, we lose something essential to our aliveness. These pieces bring us down into the territory of soul where brooding emotions, deep longing, an insatiable desire for beauty, startling images from the dreamtime and the wild energies of duende darken us into creatures of the earth. Without our descent into this terrain of psyche, we remain caught in a one-dimensional life, lacking the richness and textures that are found in this sacred ground.

Our deepest work isn’t about improvement or making ourselves better. Our work is to cultivate a vital relationship with life; to open our arms wide and become permeable to the rhythms and wildness that surrounds us and arises within us. This act of self-compassion makes us a circle of inclusion….Continue reading at InspireMeToday.com.

Francis Weller is a psychotherapist, soul activist, and author of Entering the Healing Ground: Grief, Ritual and the Soul of the World.

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7:54AM PST on Jan 16, 2014

I found this article very soothing. Thank you.

7:41AM PST on Jan 16, 2014

To be Human is to be Imperfect

10:36AM PST on Jan 15, 2014

Thank you

12:59AM PST on Jan 14, 2014

Thank you :)

10:48AM PST on Jan 13, 2014

Every work of art has an imperfection!

10:35AM PST on Jan 13, 2014

thanks

9:43AM PST on Jan 13, 2014

Thank you for the well said and timely article, just what I needed today :)

12:49AM PST on Jan 13, 2014

TY

8:05PM PST on Jan 12, 2014

My imperfections are what make me unique. Just like I have come to love my scars - they remind me that not only is the past real but that it is worth remembering.

7:01PM PST on Jan 12, 2014

It's my uniqueness but thanks anyway

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